TODAY, IN 4 MINUTES OR LESS, YOU’LL LEARN:
- Why no one is immune from Imposter Syndrome — not even world class performers and high achievers
- How reshaping your perceptions can help you rewrite your internal narrative
- What Beyoncé can teach us about unleashing an unstoppable version of ourselves
When I wrote my first book, Mastering Your Mean Girl, Imposter Syndrome hit me like a freight train —
Who was I to write a book?
Why would anybody care what I had to say?
When was everyone going to realize that I wasn’t a “real” author?
Those feelings plagued me throughout the entire writing process.
Even when my book was physically sitting in bookstores, I still felt like a fraud. I couldn’t even bring myself to say the word “author” out loud. I’d do everything I could to skate around it — somehow it felt easier to say that I’d “written a book” than to own the title of “author”.
That’s just one of my experiences with Imposter Syndrome. (I have many, many, many!)
I’ve had to do a lot of work over the years to overcome these doubts and own my achievements. During that time, I’ve figured out the best strategies and techniques — the stuff that can genuinely rewire your thought patterns and stop the downward spiral into self-doubt.
Here’s what I’ve found to be most effective…
1. Recognize That Your Perceptions Aren’t Facts
Some of the world’s brightest minds — including best-selling authors, Oscar-winning actors, and successful entrepreneurs — have experienced Imposter Syndrome.
If these high achievers are experiencing it too, it’s clear this isn’t about actual ‘skill level’ but about our perceptions.
And sweet friend? Your perceptions aren’t facts.
2. Own Your Achievements
Every time you achieve something — whether it’s a big win or a small one — write it down in a journal. Whether it’s finishing a task, getting positive feedback, or even a parenting win that made you smile, jot it down. Then, when self-doubt starts creeping in, take a look at your ‘Win Journal’. Right in front of you is hard evidence of your achievements.
3. Talk About It
Most of us have a tendency to stay silent about Imposter Syndrome. There’s a lot of shame wound up in it, and we don’t want others to know. But funnily enough, opening up can be the best antidote.
If you can be brave enough to share your feelings with those around you (or even just one person), I guarantee you’ll be blown away by how many other people have felt like a fraud too.
Sharing your feelings like this can offer a fresh perspective. Plus, hearing others’ stories might give you that “Aha!” moment where you realize just how common these feelings truly are.
4. Reframe Your Thoughts
Our thoughts have power. If you find yourself thinking, “I don’t know how to do this, so I must be incompetent,” try reframing that to, “I haven’t learned how to do this yet, but I can.”
Changing the narrative from one of self-doubt to one of growth and potential can make all the difference.
5. Stop Comparing
Scrolling through social media, it’s easy to start thinking that no one else feels the same way you do.
But remember, you’re seeing a highlight reel, not the reality. Comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s shining moments is like comparing apples and artichokes — they’re two completely different things. So keep your eyes forward on your own lane, celebrate your unique journey, and remind yourself that everyone has their own path and pace.
If comparison is something you struggle with, my book Comparisonitis outlines a proven, step-by-step strategy to help you break the cycle of comparison, free up mental bandwidth, and live life on your own terms.
6. Ground Yourself
When you’re feeling like a fraud, sensations can become overwhelming and anxiety can take hold.
A simple solution? Ground yourself. An easy way is the “5-4-3-2-1” technique. Identify five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste. This simple technique brings you back to the present moment and away from spiraling thoughts.
7. Create an Alter Ego
Beyoncé famously has an alter ego. In moments where she feels too nervous or scared to go onstage, she can step into the shoes of her alter ego ‘Sasha Fierce’, who’s always ready to rock the mic and blow the audience away.
Coming up with your own secret identity can be a powerful tool to tackle imposter syndrome. When you activate this identity, you unleash a more powerful, confident, kick-ass version of yourself who’s always primed to tackle obstacles and overcome resistance. It’s kind of like wearing armor against self-doubt. And seriously: if it’s good enough for Beyoncé, it’s worth a try for us too!
8. Finally, Aim For Progress, Not Perfection
The point of these strategies is not to eliminate all moments of doubt — we’re all human, and doubts are bound to pop up (so don’t freak out when they do!).
But by employing these strategies, those moments stay just that – fleeting moments, not defining beliefs.
The Key Takeaway
- Impostor Syndrome can be tenacious, but remember: it’s built on perceptions, not reality. By actively challenging and reshaping these perceptions, you can rewrite your internal narrative.
- Every single time you challenge your impostor feelings, you reclaim a bit more of your rightful confidence and self-belief. Over time, you’ll find not just a reduction in self-doubt, but an increase in genuine, grounded self-assurance.
- It’s not about having ALL the confidence and ZERO self-doubt. It’s about moving forward DESPITE having those feelings.
- Remember, your dreams aren’t waiting for ‘perfection’. They’re waiting for ACTION. 💥⚡️
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