I was talking to a friend the other day and she was telling me that she’s ready to call in a soulmate and experience radical, heart-bursting love… but she’s filled with fear, and it’s stopping her from taking action.
My first response was to give her a hug — because we’ve ALL been there, and we all know what fear feels like, and how paralyzing it can feel.
But my second response? A loving-but-serious, sent-with-love butt kick… straight from my heart to her tushie.
Because here’s the thing: your fear will always want you to stay exactly where you are, doing exactly what you’ve always done.
But if we do that — if we listen to our inner Mean Girl’s whispers, if we follow our fear instead of our heart… we’ll continue to get what we’ve always gotten, we’ll continue to do what we’ve always done, and we’ll continue to experience the same old results we’ve always experienced before.
The only way to experience something different (say, to call in a soulmate, or to achieve a brand new goal, or to increase your health, or to take a new path in life) is to feel the discomfort that fear brings and then choose to take action anyway.
Even if the fear’s still burbling in your belly. Even if your Mean Girl is shouting for you to stop. Even if you are scared and want nothing more than to curl up in a ball and hide away from the world.
The saying is true: everything you want is on the other side of fear.
Which means: everything you desire requires you to feel the discomfort and then put one foot in front of the other, even while the discomfort might still be raging and swirling inside you.
This requires courage and commitment, but DAMN is it worth it.
I really do get how hard it can feel, beautiful. It’s so much easier to choose comfort over courage. But…
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have released two books.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have married Nick.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never walk out on stage.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have started my podcast.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have created Path To Freedom with my hubs.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have created all my online programs, meditations, products and mentorships.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have posted a single thing on social media, like, ever.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have grown my business to where it is today.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have asked for help in my business and hired a team to support me and my vision.
If I chose comfort over courage I would never have asked for help, advice and support when it came to step-parenting — a brand new skill that I have had to learn from scratch.
It takes balls and tenacity to lean into courage, I get it, but it’s when we are stretched that we experience the most evolution.
So where in your life right now can you lean into discomfort?
Where do you need to step outside of your comfort zone and shimmy your way over to courage?
I still get nervous when I sense that unsettling feeling that means I’m inching out of my comfort zone. But I’ve reframed it, so now it also makes me excited because it means I am about to grow, it means I am stretching myself, and it means I am about to become an upgraded version of myself. My operating system is about to get a serious upgrade and that’s something to get excited about.
And because I want to practice what I preach, I am going to lean into courage right now and step out of my comfort zone and ask a favor of you. Even though this makes me feel uncomfortable, I am going to do it anyway…
As you know, my mission in this world is to inspire people to unlock their full potential, step into the full brilliance, and live the life of their dreams and have a business that lights them up. But in order for me to do that, I need to get Open Wide into as many women’s hands as possible which is why I need to ask for your help…
I am loving all the social media photos and posts you tag me in of you with my books and I am so grateful so please keep them coming (I actually screenshot every single one as keepsakes), but another powerful way you can help me spread this message is by leaving a review on Amazon — it really helps people find the book, and it lets Amazon know that it should recommend it to other readers.
So my ‘stretch task’ for today, though it takes me straight out of my comfort zone, is to ask you this: If you feel called and if it feels true for you, would you please leave an honest review for Open Wide on Amazon?
Being courageous and brave is how we grow; And it’s how we get where we want to go!
It’s super easy to write a review if you already have an Amazon account and have made purchases before. (And you can still write a review even if you got your copy of Open Wide from somewhere else — as long as you’ve bought something (anything) from Amazon in the past.)
Here’s how to leave a review…
- Log in to your Amazon account.
- Head to the Open Wide page here.
- Scroll down to ‘Customer Review’ and click ‘Write a customer review’.
- Share how Open Wide has impacted your life.
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This means the world to me and your review may be the one thing that sparks massive inspiration deep within someone else. So open your heart and share away, and together let’s inspire women all over the world to Open Wide to deep love, rocking relationships and soulful sex.
Phew! I did it. I stepped out of my comfort zone and leaned into courage. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave me a review, I am so beyond grateful.
Now tell me in the comments below: where in your life right now can you lean into courage? Where do you need to step out of your comfort zone and shimmy your way over to courage?
As always, I’m so incredibly grateful that you’re here.