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The Art Of Life-Styling (Part 1 — Wealth)

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This post is the first instalment of a three-part series on the art of life-styling. I believe we are here to create the life that's true to us in every way from our health, wealth and love. Buckle up baby.

In order to continue to grow your business Melissa, you have to get ‘serious’ and get an office — no more working from home. 

It’s time to put on your big girl pants, take on more responsibility, and step up. 

You will only be taken seriously once you have a pretty office like so and so.

Ahhhh, hello Mean Girl…

For a short period, this is what I let her tell me... and I listened. I got the lavish office in the trendiest suburb in Sydney and decked it out to look the part. Only to find that once I had ‘arrived’, it was not my truth. It actually couldn’t be further from my truth. My creativity had been curbed and I felt like I had created a corporate job for myself which I had to go to. And because my no-longer-virtual team had turned into a physical one, I felt like I had to sit there from 8:30 a.m. till 5:30 p.m. to be the shining example of ‘hard work’.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I love what I do. Like, pinch-myself-with-gratitude love; it seriously lights me up. BUT... my business has always been built on heart and intuition, and I like to create what and when it feels right for me. For someone who never forces anything, and who uses her soul as a compass, it started to feel like I was going against my grain and pushing uphill — a sure sign I needed to exit stage left, quick smart.

We are at this epic point in history, thanks to technology, where we can create a lifestyle and have the freedom that we truly desire. It’s awesome, and that’s the beauty of being an entrepreneur and having an online business — you get to be the Michelangelo of your life.

So after three months of sitting in my fancy office, I let it go, returned home and couldn’t be happier. And although some people told me it was a waste of money, like everything in my life, I saw it as an opportunity for growth, a wonderful soul lesson, and a time to practice being adaptable and pivoting quickly.

I now work from anywhere, usually at home on my kitchen bench, on Leo’s desk in his bedroom, or in my bikini on my balcony —  wherever I feel inspired. That’s the beauty of creating a lifestyle that’s true to you.

And the best part is, whether you work for yourself or not you can create the lifestyle of your dreams. All you’ve got to do is get a little creative.

So how do we create the lifestyle of our dreams?

First we have got to get clear on what that actually looks like for you.

Grab a pen and paper and jot down what a dream day at the ‘office’ looks like for you.

Here’s an example to get your creative juices flowing.

8:30 a.m. - 9:30 a.m. — Bum down.

This is where you sit down at your computer and turn your phone on. Before 8:30 a.m. I am presuming you have done your morning routine, showered, and had a wholesome breakfast. Then you can use this time to check emails, sort out your to-do list, get organised and work out the three most important things that need doing that day. I like to write them on a Post-It note and stick it next to my computer. If I get those three things done, awesome! If I put any more than three on my list, I go into overwhelm central.

9:30 a.m. - 10:30 a.m. — Hour of power.

This is your ‘hour of power’ to knuckle down on the first of your three most important tasks for the day. I like to really rev up and commit here — it’s not a time for trawling social media, scanning my inbox, or generally pfaffing about; it’s a time for getting stuff done!

10:30 a.m. - 10:45 a.m. — Pattern Break.

Sometimes I can sit for 3 hours straight and the work just flows. Other times I need a ‘pattern break’, as Tony Robbins likes to call them. In this time I will go to the bathroom, make a herbal tea, chat to my husband, jump on the rebounder, take a few deep breaths, or check my phone (I always keep it on silent).

10:45 a.m. - 12 p.m. — Head down, bum up.

Then I will go back into focus time to get shiz done.

12 p.m. - 1 p.m. — Lunch time.

Take the time to prepare something with love. Sit in the sunshine (without your phone or any distractions) and take an hour to eat. Practice mindful eating and enjoy this time.

1 p.m. - 3 p.m. — Head down, bum up.

Maybe this is your time to finish off anything you need to get done, or perhaps this is when you batch your meetings or phone calls. I always try to batch my meetings so that I am not constantly breaking my flow, and I only ever book my meetings in the afternoon. That way I’ve already got my most important work done in the morning and I can relax and enjoy my meetings.

3 p.m. - 4:30 p.m. — Self Love Time.

Go for a walk in nature, dive into the ocean, have a cuppa with your soul sister, read in bed, take a bath, meditate, whatever is on your self love menu.

4:30 p.m. - 5:30 p.m. — Wrap up.

This is your time to check emails and round anything out from the day. Use this time to organise your desk and your to-do list for the following day. Then close your computer and go enjoy your evening with your loved ones. Try not to jump back online or check your emails for the rest of the evening. It can wait!

Now it’s time to map out your own version. In an ideal world, what would your ‘work’ day look like? Go on, take 10 minutes with your journal to do it now.

It’s so important we get crystal clear on what exactly it is that lights us up. Then we can fill our days with more of that stuff, and delegate the things keeping us small. I am all about doing more of what feels good in my body and less of what doesn’t, and the beauty of this exercise is that it allows you to really hone in on where you’re at and where you can make improvements.

Now, getting your ideal day sorted is a great start. But as an entrepreneur, none of it matters if you don’t also have the right team players on your side. After being in business since 2011, I have learnt a lot about hiring the right people, and let it be said: it’s definitely an art. I have learnt some major lessons along the way, but I am beyond grateful for the absolute angels I have on Team MA now — they are always at the top of my gratitude list. I have literally manifested my dream team and couldn’t be more grateful. But how did I do it?

Here are my top 5 tips on how to hire your dream team...

  • Get to know them. This is where you invite them over for dinner, take them out for lunch, go for a walk or yoga class together, and ask loads of questions about their past, their family and friends, their dreams, where they see themselves in 5 years, and their goals for the future.
  • Forget their CV. Obviously if you are hiring a graphic designer, you need someone who’s got the necessary skills. But if it came down to two designers — one with a way more impressive CV but no drive, passion, heart or alignment, and the other just out of college but overflowing with passion and bursting for the job, I would go with the second. In the past I have hired people because of their extensive CV, but I quickly learned that while you can teach skills, you can’t teach those other important qualities. So look for heart, passion and alignment and remember that you can always teach the skills and train someone up.
  • Flip them. Everyone who works for Team MA gets ‘flipped’. The Flippen Profile is based on a complex psychometric instrument that is able to pinpoint behavioural characteristics and predict future behaviour and performance. It’s awesome. Even my husband and I did it and it has taken our relationship to another level.
  • Ask the right questions. In order to get to know someone on a deep level, you have to ask the right questions. It’s kinda like dating. When I’m interviewing potential team members, I ask about things like what their morning routine is. This tells me a lot about the type of person they are and if they take time for themselves. I also ask about what they are currently reading. What they do on the weekends. What they do for fun. And what their hobbies are. All these questions give me a deeper insight into them as a person.
  • Would you have them around the table with your family for dinner? Ask yourself this question. If the answer is yes, brilliant! If the answer is no, then I would really rethink hiring that person. You’ve got to want to hang out and be friends with the people you are hiring — especially in a heart-centered business like mine. Basically, you’ve got to be able to trust someone so much that you would trust them with your baby.
In order to create a heart centered business, you need to hire like a pro.
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Now I would love to hear from you, beautiful. What does your dream ‘work’ day look like? Share with me in the comments below. Also, do you have any top tips for hiring like a pro? If so, please share away.

Remember, your comment could be the one thing that saves someone else a lot of pivoting. So open that big beautiful heart of yours and share away.

As always my darling, thank you so much for being here. Your dedication to being the best version of yourself and living your best life seriously inspires the heck out of me.

P.S. This is the first in a three-part series I’m creating on the art of life styling. Make sure you tune back in for part two!

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    • September 24, 2015

      WOW such good insights. I love the points you made about evaluating your potential hires as tribe members and asking them personal questions. It really puts things into perspective. This post was helpful to me on so many levels!!
      Thank you!
      xx

      • Melissa
        September 24, 2015

        You're so welcome Madison, I am so glad ;)

        xx

    • Pippa
      September 24, 2015

      Love how honest and true you are to your tribe saying when something doesn't feel like your truth and changing it. Sometimes we can get caught up in a decision being made and feeling like we have to stick it out, but knowing it isn't right deep down. I think it is so awesome and gorgeous that you can say hold on this is not right for me now, I'm going to change it. Heart centred self love that allows you to give so much more whilst also focussing on you and your inspiring business. Love, love , LOVE this sooooo much xoxo

      My dream day would definitely allow for flexibility and to take time out to see people, catch up, go places and do things to help me expand my mind and explore new things. Flexibility is super important to me and its more difficult to have this working for someone else / in the more corporate world..... I would love my own business and this had clarified this even more for me so thank you :-)

      Biggest loves and hugs xoxo

      • Melissa
        September 24, 2015

        You're so welcome angel. I can see it all unfolding for you. Just keep staying connected to your desires and it will unfold in divine time. I know it ;)

        I love you so much Pip.

        xx

    • September 24, 2015

      Thanks so much for these insights. I love your daily routine and your focus on the three most important tasks per day. For me three is the magic number as well.

      Main difference in my dream life is that I only start between 9.30 or 10.00. This gives me enough time for my morning routing (sport & meditation) including a relaxed breakfast on the balcony with my hubby. We also prepare our lunch every morning as he has to go to the office - poor boy ;) Therefore I usually work until 7pm before I switch everything off.

      In reality though at the moment I might work a bit longer as I am just starting my own heart-centred business, and that's fine for me as it is so much fun to see everything evolve around me. One day in the near future I will really switch everything off at 7pm.

      Gosh and I really need to give the 'pattern break' a try. I usually go straight into my zone and when I look up 2 hours might be gone. I feel like taking a 'pattern break' gives you a fresh set of eyes and improves your results at the end. When I was still in an office environment I would always have a colleague talk to me but at home you can look at your computer screen for hours.

      I had to smile when I read, that you have your mobile on silent - I thought I am the only one ;)

      Thanks heaps. Looking forward to part 2.

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Hey Kris,

        Thank you so much for sharing, I love that your phone is always on silent. I can't stand it always going off. I also love that you take so much time for you in the morning especially sitting on the balcony and eating with your hubby, how beautiful. I bet you feel amazing after you do all that. Keep it up angel.

        xx

    • Tan
      September 24, 2015

      Hi Melissa :) Hope you doing fine. You post such great articles at specific and important periods in my life :) I'm grateful for the day when I downloaded an eBook on Lorna Jane's website and read about your story :) <3

      Since this time I have been following your posts and Instagram and purchased your guided meditations, both your books and downloaded all your soul shares :) Thank you for this article..it came at an exact time in my life where I was no longer being productive in my work, in my life and starting to lose my glow!

      Thank you so much dear Melissa :) <3

      • Melissa
        September 24, 2015

        You're welcome my darling. I am so glad and well done for taking the action. Keep going beautiful, you got this ;)

    • September 24, 2015

      I loved this post. When I read about your day there were these little moments when I was like, 'That is such a great idea'. I'm suffering from overwhelm and burnout right now from taking on too much and trying to juggle paid work while I grow my business. It's honestly taken me the best part of a year to learn to structure my time but at some points (like now) it just goes out the window. I know I can't wait for things to calm down - that I have to take responsibility for bringing calm back into my day. And these tips really helped. Thanks Melissa! X

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        I am so glad honey. Something that helps me is reminding myself that overwhelm is a choice and I can choice at any moment not to be overwhelmed, it really helps ;) And you're right we must take responsibility to bring calm into our daily life. Meditation really helps me with that and also being in nature. What helps you?

    • Kelly Hensley
      September 24, 2015

      Oh gosh you make my heart flutter sometimes! Love Love Love this article!!! I am currently working towards getting myself to the point professionally that I can be self-employed and have a truly heart centered practice and business. This stuff makes me wanna dive right in. Can't wait talk to you about it!! Bring on Part 2

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Can't wait to hear all about it Kel ;)

    • Sarah
      September 24, 2015

      My ideal days

      6am wake up for yoga with the littlest one, start breakfast for the fam
      7.30am coffee and breakfast
      8.30am get settled in for an hour of work
      10am coach
      11am coffee, clean up
      12pm work
      1pm lunch
      2pm family time
      4pm walk dog
      5.30pm train
      6.30pm teach yoga

      or

      5.15am prepare for work
      6am coach x2
      8am teach yoga
      9.30 coffee & clean up
      11am nap (kids to park)
      12pm lunch
      1pm walk dog
      2pm work
      4pm down time
      5.30pm train
      6.45pm dinner with family
      8.30pm partner time

      or

      sleep in until 9am
      lazy stroll to green smoothies
      sunbake and surf all day
      lazy stroll home
      cook together
      family yoga
      eat together
      read

      xxxxxxxxx

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Sounds lovely Sarah.

    • Em
      September 24, 2015

      I would adore to work for myself and plan out my days but where would one start when they haven't discovered their path?
      Xx

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Hey Em,

        Great question and one I get asked all the time. Grab out your journal and answer these questions... What lights you up? What do you lose hours doing? What could you see yourself doing? I talk all about this in my business bootcamp, it's a great resource where I teach you how to create a heart-centered business. Have you checked it out?

    • Simone Turner
      September 25, 2015

      Thanks for sharing your ideal schedule with us. I have a quick question, when you refer to meetings, are you referring to client calls? How can I factor in webinars I'd do, or client sessions? Do you time block those for specific days and a certain time chunk during the day or evening? Thanks

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Hey Simone,

        It's a great idea to time block your webinars and clients that way you aren't breaking your flow all day long. And yes I would do them on specific days and batch them all together ;)

        xx

    • Bec
      September 25, 2015

      Love your day Mel! One day! My day currently starts amazingly well at 5.30am with vinyasa yoga, meditation and a green smoothie and then moves on to a heavy commute, long hours, and deadline pressure. I guess that's just the corporate world! Haha. I love my job but will have a flexible schedule like this in a couple of years once I'm ready to step back away from it all. Love manifesting these things too. Thanks for the article. x

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        You're so welcome Bec. I wanted to ask you, how can you bring love and joy into the "heavy commute, long hours, and deadline pressure"? If there is something you don't necessary love how can you bring love into it? This is a question I ask myself all the time. Give it a go sweetie ;)

    • September 25, 2015

      This has potential to be my favourite post yet I think Mel!
      Just as Pip said, I love how you aren't afraid to pivot when you know a decision you have made isn't right for you. It's so so important!
      Can't wait for the next part Xxxx

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Thanks Gemma, you're so beautiful.

        Can't wait to see you again soon.

        xx

    • September 25, 2015

      What a great article! I loved it! I'm going to print it out and put it up at work for inspiration. xx

      • Melissa
        September 25, 2015

        Great idea Dan ;)

    • Gabby
      September 25, 2015

      I am loving these insights into you and your beautiful business Mel. Thank you. They are really helping me ALOT.

      I can't wait for part 2. I was wondering though what kind of dream team people especially in a virtual world what would their job/passion careers be? You mentioned designer but who else is out there to help in other platforms? Especially in a new business or even in an existing one. I need to out source a few things but don't know who to out source too. Like marketing help, business planning, social media scheduling. I would love to have two of the three of these skills in one lady and how do you work out what you can pay or if to offer an internship?

      • Melissa
        September 29, 2015

        Hey Gabby,

        I teach all about outsourcing in my business bootcamp. Have you checked it out yet? From the questions you are asking I think you would really get a lot out of it. But to give you a run down you can basically outsource anything in your business from marketing help, social media scheduling, designer and coding work etc. You have to get super clear on what exactly you need help with first and post your jobs on places like Elance, Odesk or Fiver. Again I dive deep into this stuff in my bootcamp if you’re interested you should check it out. I know you will love it.

        xx

    • September 27, 2015

      Hi Melissa,Thank you for this. This is how I have been working my days as a new entrepreneur but I was feeling guilty for doing so. Thank you for letting me know that its OK to take time for me in between building a business and life that i LOVE!
      Love your energy and vibe. XX

      • Melissa
        September 28, 2015

        You're so welcome Jessica. Remember the more you fill yourself up the more you can give to others ;)

        xx

    • Han
      September 27, 2015

      I love this! It lights me up :). Honestly I've been talking about you and some of the other lovelies I've recently discovered through Rachel MacDonald and saying "I have NO IDEA how they fit all this stuff in and do all the lovely self care too!". And now I do!

      I'm just starting to compartmentalise my (mat leave) day this way and love it for just getting shit done and avoiding overwhelm!

      Just a year of the corporate job to go and then the big leap into something more beautiful awaits! #takingonefortheteam

      Thanks for all that you share, Im just loving finding you gals, a lot resonates with me in a big way.

      BIG LOVE Han xxx

    • September 28, 2015

      Love this post! I think the most important part of my dream work day is being able to work from anywhere I want. That's definitely one of the biggest perks of having an online business and something that is very important to me. And thank you for the lovely reminder that I can create that for myself:)

      xoxo Erika

      • Melissa
        September 29, 2015

        You sure can honey ;)

    • September 29, 2015

      Thankyou...these words were just the ones i need in my inbox, and what a beautiful way to start my day today! I feel grateful (for you!), inspired and super excited! Big love :) xx Lauren

      • Melissa
        September 29, 2015

        Thank you Lauren. I am beyond grateful for you also.

        xx

    • September 29, 2015

      Good one.... I liked the way you narrated everything here in this post. :-)
      Would you be interested in writing a guest post for our website.... if yes, then please contact on the posted email id of the gentleman.... well.... my boss...

    • September 30, 2015

      My only question is, when are you coming to the US?! I would love to see and hear you in person!!!

      Much love,
      Julie

      • Melissa
        September 30, 2015

        I will be there in 2016 honey.

        I can't wait to meet you.

        xx

    • Christina
      October 1, 2015

      Melissa, I love the way you have structured this and would definitely like to work towards this being 'a day at the office' for myself. I'm curious though how do you fit in time to do household chores like cleaning, laundry, shopping etc, and what about cooking? I eat real food and it takes a lot of time to prep. How do you squeeze these things in as well? Thanks in advance and big love to you <3

      • Melissa
        October 6, 2015

        Hey Christina,

        One of the best things I ever did in life and in my business was get leverage. So about a year ago I sat down and worked out where I needed help and support in my business and life. I then employed the people that were needed in the office and at home to help me not only do what I do best but what I love. I only want to do things that I love and that light me up and I delegate the rest. It's all about leverage. How can you delegate what you don't love doing to create space for what you do love? That is the question you need to ask yourself.

    • Rebecca
      January 21, 2016

      Thank Mel, I really enjoyed your post but it made me feel a little jealous and frustrated. I am a teacher and I love being a teacher, my ideal day is with my students. But there is a real lack of flexibility to my day, it is run by bells and deadlines. Can you see a way of introducing some self love and my truth into my full day. I currently go to the gym before work and always make time for breakfast but once my breakfast is quickly rate I don't stop again until after I've cooked dinner and cleaned the house.

      • Melissa
        January 22, 2016

        It's about finding those little moments where you can infuse some self-love into your day. Get creative! Maybe 3 minutes on your lunch break or in between each class. Or stat your classes with some breathing and meditation. You can always practice deep belly breathing whilst you're driving, listen to inspiring talks like The Goddess Group On Demand whilst you drive to work, repeat affirmations whilst sitting at the traffic lights or on the loo or in the shower. Eat your lunch in the sun alone. There are so many things you could do.

        If you are full it's about making it happen when you can. How do they sound?

        • Rebecca
          January 22, 2016

          They do sound helpful. I want to start the year with a positive mindset so maybe if I make it a priority and make it part of my daily routine from the start it might be easier.
          Thank you for opening up some options.

        • Melissa
          January 25, 2016

          Making it a priority is essential to set yourself up for success. Give it a go for 1 week and see how you feel. Keep me posted with your progress.

    • Rebecca
      January 28, 2016

      Great post as always! Must say, I'm intrigued by Flippen Group. What does it exactly entail? I clicked the link, but couldn't work out if it was something you had to buy?

      • Melissa
        January 29, 2016

        Hey Rebecca,

        Flippen is very interesting indeed. Check out all the info on it here and let me know what you think honey.

        xx

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