Nuggets Of Wisdom On Love And Relationships
Deep Levels Of Authenticity Lead To A Rich Life
When we are truly ourselves and we feel we can be our true self with others, that is when we will feel rich beyond measure. Being someone we are not is exhausting and inauthentic. Remember you are perfect, whole and complete just as you are and you don't need to fix, change or improve anything about yourself. So own that sista, and you will feel wildly wealthy in all areas of your life.
Depth Is What People Are Missing
It’s not a new partner we want; we want deep, real, true, juicy depth and intimacy. We want someone we feel we can be our true self with. That’s what we are all ultimately craving. So how can we get this? We go deep within ourselves first. We be authentic and open OUR heart first. We don’t wait, or hold back the love to “test the waters” and make sure the other person is worthy of our love and going to stick around. Love is infinite my friend, and we need to give it abundantly first. Be a trailblazer and carry the torch of love before our brothers and sisters and you will experience true depth and intimacy like never before.
We All Get What We Tolerate
We set the standard of how to be treated. If you don’t like what you are currently experiencing in your relationship then it’s time to dial up your worthy-o-meter and start owning who you truly are. We teach people how we desire to be treated, so make sure you are treating yourself with so much love before you expect anyone else to.
To Make Relationships Work It Takes Unbelievable Courage
When you are in a conscious relationship there is nowhere to hide; you are each other's biggest mirrors and that takes unbelievable courage. It can sometimes feel ‘easier’ to run off and hide, to say, ‘This isn’t working for me anymore’, and to leave. But the real courage is standing in front of your partner (your mirror) and facing your fears head on. Not running in the other direction at the first sight of a challenge takes guts.
Relationships Magnify Everything Else
A relationship offers you a perfect opportunity to see your own crap — the stuff you are disowning. Like I mentioned above, your partner is your mirror, and whatever you haven’t owned within yourself will get magnified. There’s nowhere to hide.
Selfishness Will End Your Relationship
As you know, I am the queen of self-love. I am its biggest cheerleader because I believe if you first fill yourself up with love, you will show up to the world as the best version of yourself. But to be clear: self-love is very different to being selfish, and when you commit to being in a relationship you must practice being selfless. Now, this does NOT mean being a people pleaser and always putting your partner's wants or desires before your own. What I am saying here is that if you can practice being selfless with your partner, that loving energy of service will ricochet out to others and to yourself.
Every morning at the end of my meditation, I pray for my husband’s happiness and health. I also pray he has the best day ever. I then ask him, in-person, ‘How can I best support you today? Is there anything I can do to make your day even better?’
Sometimes he will say, ‘You’re the best but I'm all good today, honey’. Other times he will say, ‘I have to leave at 8 a.m. and won’t have time to clean up after myself in the kitchen, would you mind cleaning up for me?’, or ‘Would you mind picking up XYZ for me today?’
To which I always reply, ‘Sure!’ If cleaning up the kitchen or picking up something whilst I am out will make my man’s life that little bit better, then why the heck wouldn’t I do it for him? Not only does it help him out, but I feel awesome in the process because I am helping someone else. It’s a win-win.
Lead With Fear And You Will Fail
Lead with fear (a.k.a. your Mean Girl) and you will end up getting a kick up the butt from the Universe. Choose your heart, always.