We all have a Mean Girl. She’s that negative fear-based voice inside your head that lives in the past or future, keeping you stuck in the deep dark woods of struggle city. And it ain’t fun! Life’s tough there. It’s effortful and actually really boring.
But, my sweet friend, there is another way to live…
So, what does your Mean Girl tell you?
You’re too fat to fall in love.
He doesn’t love you.
No one cares what you think.
You’re too old to even bother trying.
You’re such a fraud.
Everybody’s looking at you and thinking how ugly you are.
You’re never gonna get a boyfriend.
Who could possibly love you?
You’ve been stupid since high school and you’re always going to be stupid.
Have you seen the size of your butt lately?
You always screw up your relationships.
You’re not pretty enough or thin enough or popular enough.
You’ll never be as good as her.
You say the dumbest things.
You don’t earn enough.
You’re a failure.
Oy… it exhausts me just typing it!
When it comes to mastering your Mean Girl, inspired action is where it’s at. So let’s dig in right now: Write down the top five things your Mean Girl says to you the most. (Don’t judge yourself here, simply write them down.) Then, I want you to pick the one that has the most ‘charge’ around it — you know what I mean: the one that really stings, that you’re secretly afraid is true, and that keeps you seriously stuck. For the next week, your challenge is to master that Mean Girl thought by following my simple, super-effective Mastering Your Mean Girl 3-Step Process:
- Awareness. Become aware of when she pops up and tells you that you’re not good enough, thin enough, whatever enough. Most times we are so unconscious and not present that we aren’t even aware of her internal dialogue, so bringing your awareness to her words is the first step.
- Gently close the door on her. Once you are aware that she has popped up, you can now choose to gently close the door on her. It’s not about fighting her, or waging an inner battle — that’ll just cause more pain and suffering. Instead, it’s a gentle, grateful act that comes from a place of peace.
- Choose love instead. Once you have gently closed the door on her, choose to come back to your heart and choose love instead of fear. It’s so much more fulfilling when you do.
Follow through on this method for a week, and you won’t believe the spaciousness you’ll feel inside your head and the peace that’ll pervade your heart — it’s life-changing, on all levels.
Mastering your Mean Girl will change your life and rock your world.
Of course, overcoming one fear-based thought doesn’t mean the journey’s over — far from it. Then it’s time to choose another one of your Mean Girl’s criticisms and keep going through the process until she is no longer running the show and ruining your life. (And let me just say, the deeper into this work you go, the more incredible and soul-stirring the rewards — seriously.)
Now, because putting words down is WAY more powerful than just thinking them in your head, I’d love you to share with me in the comments below the biggest thing your Mean Girl says to you. Don’t be shy — I guarantee that what your Mean Girl says to you, we have ALL thought at some point. You are not alone, and no — you’re not weird. We all have these same fear-based thoughts, but you no longer need to let them control you or your life. So share away in the comments below… I can’t wait to read them.
As always, my precious soul sista, thank you so much for being here. For truly wanting to master your inner Mean Girl and live the life of your dreams. I bow to you!
P.S. What do you think of the trailer? Share with me in the comments below, and if you want to inspire the women in your life to master their inner Mean Girl and live the life of their dreams, share this trailer with them right now using the social media buttons below. Let’s make this go viral and help inspire millions of women around the world to master their inner Mean Girl. I can’t do this alone I need your help, so share away beautiful.