How do you find your passion and purpose in life? And how do you live it?
Two questions I get asked often. Firstly, I just want to make it crystal clear that your purpose and passion in life aren’t things you need to go out and find. They find you! It’s within you and always has been.
But what happens is that somewhere along your journey, someone told you that you can’t make money from your passion – it’s too hard, too expensive, too unrealistic – so you set it aside. You put that passion on the back of the shelf, up the very top, and let it sit there to collect dust. From there, weeks, months and years go by. In the meantime, you get a ‘normal job’, which you despise, and which leaves you feeling creatively depleted, uninspired and bored as bat-shit. I very nearly fell into that trap.
When I finished year 12, I applied to get a Bachelor of Business at the best university in Brisbane, Queensland University of Technology. I got accepted, but I applied out of fear. I applied because isn’t that what everyone does? I applied because that is what my career counsellor and teachers told me to do. But instinctively, deep down, I knew that it wasn’t the right path for me. My heart was burning to be on stage.
So I took a giant leap of faith, and at age 17, I moved to Sydney, got accepted into the best performing arts school in Australia – Brent Street – and trained my tush off. I then had an amazing career as a performer – dancing, singing, acting and presenting all over the world for 10 years. The thing is, I am way too driven and passionate to let anyone else tell me what I should and shouldn’t do, especially with something like my career.
I am so glad I didn’t follow what everyone at school was telling me to do and just did what was true for me. I was reminded of the importance of following your own truth last night, as I was reading Leo a book. It was called Excuses by Wayne Dyer, and there was a bolt of brilliance in it that spoke right to me:
“You can let everyone else tell you why you shouldn’t do something or you can do what’s right for you. The choice is yours.”
It’s so easy to listen to all the well-intentioned people around us telling us what to do (or what not to do) with our lives. It’s much harder to tune out the noise and just listen to your own heart. But if you don’t listen to that inner calling now – if you squash it down and do what you’re supposed to be doing – it’s going to well up at some point in the future. One day, you’ll finally get a wake-up call and realise that you want to – in fact, you have to – go collect that burning passion of yours, dust it off and start living it.
So why not now, beautiful?
I believe that when you are living your passion and doing something you love, work is no longer work.
It’s simply sharing your message and being of service to the world. I wouldn’t call what I do work. Writing, speaking and coaching is hardly ‘work’, because I freaking love it. I get to travel the world and inspire people to be the best version of themselves. I love it and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else right now.
One of the most common statements I hear is. What if I don’t have a passion? If that sounds familiar, ask yourself this…
What lights me up?
What makes my heart sing?
What do I lose hours and hours doing?
There’s your answer, beautiful – right there. In fact, sometimes the answers can come thick and fast, and start to get overwhelming. There are loads of good ideas out there – thousands, if not millions. Which path should you choose? I see it all the time with my mentoring clients – they have 3 awesome business ideas and don’t know which direction to take.
Remember: the world is full of great ideas just waiting for you to pursue them.
Getting crystal clear on this is super-important. Take out a pen and paper and answer these two questions:
What is my passion?
What is my purpose?
I’ll go first…
What Is My Passion?
I am passionate about helping and supporting women to unlock their full potential, be the best version of themselves, to karate-chop limiting beliefs and master their Mean Girl. I love seeing people shine; it truly lights me up. I am passionate about evolution, humanity and love and I am also passionate about treading lightly on this beautiful planet of ours.
What Is My Purpose?
I believe my purpose in this world, is to support, inspire and help others live their best life. To empower them to create lives full of adventure, colour, happiness and overflowing with love. My purpose is to help you shine. To help you fall in love with yourself and become Wildly Wealthy, Fabulously Healthy and Bursting With Love.
I believe everything I have been through – including depression, an eating disorder and being hospitalized for a serious viral infection – was so that I could help and serve others. That is why I am here. Stop using the excuse ‘but I don’t know what my passion is’, and start to live it. Head toward what makes your heart sing. Dust it off and start to infuse that essence into everything you do. As my friend Marie Forleo says ‘The world needs that special gift that only you have’.
It’s so easy to not follow your passion and purpose in life, but let me tell you: I have not come across anyone who has ever regretted following their passion. I have, however, come across loads of people that have regretted shelving it and letting it sit and collect dust for many years.
The choice, beautiful, is always yours. Now I want to challenge you, my darling, to open your heart and share with me in the comments what your passion and purpose is. Go on, be brave. Your comment, courage, and vulnerability will inspire our beautiful tribe.
Thank you for sharing a piece of you and being so kind as always in the comments.