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How do you find your passion and purpose in life? And how do you live it?

Two questions I get asked often. Firstly, I just want to make it crystal clear that your purpose and passion in life aren’t things you need to go out and find. They find you! It’s within you and always has been.

But what happens is that somewhere along your journey, someone told you that you can’t make money from your passion – it’s too hard, too expensive, too unrealistic – so you set it aside. You put that passion on the back of the shelf, up the very top, and let it sit there to collect dust. From there, weeks, months and years go by. In the meantime, you get a ‘normal job’, which you despise, and which leaves you feeling creatively depleted, uninspired and bored as bat-shit. I very nearly fell into that trap.

When I finished year 12, I applied to get a Bachelor of Business at the best university in Brisbane, Queensland University of Technology. I got accepted, but I applied out of fear. I applied because isn’t that what everyone does? I applied because that is what my career counsellor and teachers told me to do. But instinctively, deep down, I knew that it wasn’t the right path for me. My heart was burning to be on stage.

So I took a giant leap of faith, and at age 17, I moved to Sydney, got accepted into the best performing arts school in Australia – Brent Street – and trained my tush off. I then had an amazing career as a performer – dancing, singing, acting and presenting all over the world for 10 years. The thing is, I am way too driven and passionate to let anyone else tell me what I should and shouldn’t do, especially with something like my career.

I am so glad I didn’t follow what everyone at school was telling me to do and just did what was true for me. I was reminded of the importance of following your own truth last night, as I was reading Leo a book. It was called Excuses by Wayne Dyer, and there was a bolt of brilliance in it that spoke right to me:

“You can let everyone else tell you why you shouldn’t do something or you can do what’s right for you. The choice is yours.”

It’s so easy to listen to all the well-intentioned people around us telling us what to do (or what not to do) with our lives. It’s much harder to tune out the noise and just listen to your own heart. But if you don’t listen to that inner calling now – if you squash it down and do what you’re supposed to be doing – it’s going to well up at some point in the future. One day, you’ll finally get a wake-up call and realise that you want to – in fact, you have to – go collect that burning passion of yours, dust it off and start living it.

So why not now, beautiful?

I believe that when you are living your passion and doing something you love, work is no longer work.

It’s simply sharing your message and being of service to the world. I wouldn’t call what I do work. Writing, speaking and coaching is hardly ‘work’, because I freaking love it. I get to travel the world and inspire people to be the best version of themselves. I love it and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else right now.

One of the most common statements I hear is. What if I don’t have a passion? If that sounds familiar, ask yourself this…

What lights me up?

What makes my heart sing?

What do I lose hours and hours doing?

There’s your answer, beautiful – right there. In fact, sometimes the answers can come thick and fast, and start to get overwhelming. There are loads of good ideas out there – thousands, if not millions. Which path should you choose? I see it all the time with my mentoring clients – they have 3 awesome business ideas and don’t know which direction to take.

Remember: the world is full of great ideas just waiting for you to pursue them.

Getting crystal clear on this is super-important. Take out a pen and paper and answer these two questions:

What is my passion?

What is my purpose?

I’ll go first…

What Is My Passion?

I am passionate about helping and supporting women to unlock their full potential, be the best version of themselves, to karate-chop limiting beliefs and master their Mean Girl. I love seeing people shine; it truly lights me up. I am passionate about evolution, humanity and love and I am also passionate about treading lightly on this beautiful planet of ours.

What Is My Purpose?

I believe my purpose in this world, is to support, inspire and help others live their best life. To empower them to create lives full of adventure, colour, happiness and overflowing with love. My purpose is to help you shine. To help you fall in love with yourself and become Wildly Wealthy, Fabulously Healthy and Bursting With Love.

I believe everything I have been through – including depression, an eating disorder and being hospitalized for a serious viral infection – was so that I could help and serve others. That is why I am here. Stop using the excuse ‘but I don’t know what my passion is’, and start to live it. Head toward what makes your heart sing. Dust it off and start to infuse that essence into everything you do. As my friend Marie Forleo says ‘The world needs that special gift that only you have’. 

It’s so easy to not follow your passion and purpose in life, but let me tell you: I have not come across anyone who has ever regretted following their passion. I have, however, come across loads of people that have regretted shelving it and letting it sit and collect dust for many years.

The choice, beautiful, is always yours. Now I want to challenge you, my darling, to open your heart and share with me in the comments what your passion and purpose is. Go on, be brave. Your comment, courage, and vulnerability will inspire our beautiful tribe.

Thank you for sharing a piece of you and being so kind as always in the comments.

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  1. Ruthd says:

    I am constantly struggling with this… I have spent my working years in sales and marketing ..they say I can sell ice to Eskimos ..but I spend my time stressed trying to make budget.. I’m now 55 my children have grown and are doing there thing though I miss them terribly. I have tried yoga which I enjoy, I have tried meditation but I seem to have cushion aversion. I have organised travel for large groups and small groups as a sideline ..tried to do it as a career and gave myself a nervous breakdown .
    So right now I am a housewife with no direction and a serve case of depression .
    My passion is…children
    My purpose was my family..

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Ruth,

      What do you LOVE? And what could you lose hours doing?

      • Carl says:

        Great article. Very well written. One of the best I’ve read in I don’t know how long. This Resonates… As we do. A dream held in the heart until it becomes a default feeling/vibration (your state of being) must ripple out into the world to seemingly draw about circumstances, events, individuals to morph the mental/emotional dream into the physical one. I could never follow the conventional path of mediocrity, never have; although suffered immense doubt early on due to societal beliefs inherited as we all do. Nothing will stop me from this point forward. I know (experientially) way too much.
        Even if failure were possible (only possible when one gives up), the depth of character and understanding of who you are at the depths of your humanity or spirit through piercing through your fears, going against the grain, finding out who you truly are, are the greatest gifts life has to offer anyways. Those who’d trade that for the alternative will unfortunately never understand, not in this life.

    • Ruthd says:

      Hi Melissa
      What do I love …you have me stumped there …there are lots of things I love but nothing that would hold my attention for hours.

      unless it involves other people, I guess you could say I’m a people person and I love listening to the hopes and dreams and problems too. Just being there for them maybe making a suggestion to motivate them.
      Time to get out and do some volunteer work me thinks….find my happy place 🙂

      • Melissa Ambrosini says:

        I think you just found your passion honey. Maybe it’s life coaching and supporting and motivating people to live their dreams.

        Sounds beautiful to me 😉

        xx

      • Sarah says:

        Hey Ruth,

        I just read your comments and it touched me as I felt the same for a while.

        I see you grew your family and children into grown wonderful people. You have said you love to nurture, listen to peoples dream and passions and assist them on their journey. You sound like a wonderful person who could be a life coach, counsellor, helping young people grow into successful, healthy adults or work with those with disabilities who are pressing on with life.

        Just a thought but you sound like a wonderful nurturing & loving giver to others.

        Sx

      • Anna says:

        Hi Ruth,
        Since you love children, maybe working or volunteering with children and/or families could be up your alley? There are programs requiring mentors for young people, parent aides, or you might even consider babysitting/nannying, there are many people looking for someone for just one or two afternoons a week who I’m sure would appreciate the wealth of experience and nurturing care you would bring. All the best 🙂

  2. Really enjoyed reading this post Melissa, this is a topic fond to me. I spent most of my younger years traveling the world and it wasn’t until my ex partner asked me this question one day that I was completely stumped for an answer. I was 28 years old and never had I’d been asked what my purpose was in life. Long story short, my lack of self awareness and self love resulted in the demise of a marriage, my wife left and it tore me apart. I spiraled into deep depression, it was tough to get out. From the moment she left, I made a decision there and then to go in pursuit of meaning within. Many people are so worried about finding their purpose that they forget the most important lesson of life. To live in the present. I’ve come to the realisation that if we spend too long focusing on purpose or living in the past, we forget to truly live. Purpose for some is what they associate the most level of pain to, for others it is what gives them the most pleasure. I’m with you on this, I believe it has something to do with inspiring to help others. Moreover though, we need to assess what the notion of helping others gives you and it always comes back to one thing. Happiness. One thing is for sure, there’s absolutely no way you can help others until you are happy within otherwise you project your own insecurities and hurt onto others. I have a lot of respect for your words of wisdom and your authenticity. My purpose is to be happy. Thank you MA. Keep inspiring.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Joseph,

      Thank you so much for your kind words and your wisdom. I love what you have shared. It’s so important that we start with ourselves. Otherwise you’re right we will project our stuff onto them.

      Keep inspiring darling.

      x

  3. Ange says:

    I’ve spent almost the last decade working in fashion because I fell into it. I continued because people were constantly telling me I was good at it and in the right industry. But it was never a passion. I never truly felt complete. I was always interested in nutrition and helping people heal with food and I can finally say I’m on the right path. Having a baby forced me out of fashion and into my own world where I realised I wasn’t talking to my friends about the latest trends, but what foods would heal their cold, rash, headaches. I’m about to start studying at IIN and I cannot wait! x

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      YAY honey. I am so happy and excited for you. I loved IIN so much. SO proud of you for following your truth…how good does it feel.

      Keep listening to your heart and following what’s right for you.

      xx

      • Amanda says:

        Yay love this post so perfect and timely for me today, especially Waynes quote as I am receiving much advice with managing a transition and launching into career change.

        I have always known the best source of guidance is my softer voice heart over the fear fuelling ego. I was explaining to a work colleague to remember what she loved doing as a child and what makes her heart sing so will surely pass perfect post onwards.

        My purpose in life to create beauty and heal others by empowering them to make better choices for their health, wealth and wellbeing in an all encompassing way.

        My number one passion is living in the absolute truth, the truth, it can be the source of all goodness, freedom and resolve.

        I am with Joseph on being happy, the vibe of happiness magnetises the good stuff right back. Ange INN is amazing am so loving it! Melissa your wonderful guidance is so beautiful and generous. x

      • Melissa Ambrosini says:

        Sounds beautiful Amanda.

        Keep following your heart and let go of your Mean Girl.

        You’re going to do great things in the world…I can feel it.

        xx

  4. lauren says:

    After a big day at work I feel like I was meant to sit down and read this article, so thank you so much MA for posting. My dad told me as a kid that if you could be good at maths and science then there is nothing you cant do… so at 26 I have a masters in science and completing a grad dip in cardiac ultrasound. I get paid great money and I love helping people but I dont think im happy, instead just living the fantasy i conjured up in my head as a kid. My purpose is helping people realise life is beautiful and worth fighting for. My passion is embracing the beauty of the world around to do so. Oh how I would love to find a way to marry the two.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hey Lauren,

      Thank you so much for sharing.

      You CAN marry the two, my love. All you have to do is keep following your purpose and passion and it will organically unfold. Don’t stress yourself out with the how or when, just let it unfold as it’s supposed to. Remember everything in divine time.

      PS I love your purpose and passion 😉

  5. Noortje says:

    Thanx so much for being you Melissa, and with that your valuable inspiration!

    And however I`m following `you` since a couple of months, this blog was calling me to leave a comment..

    The last few years, I made a bunch of changes in my life to try and feel better – I changed jobs, I changed homes, I changed relationships, went on a trip around the world and I constantly tried to change my body – but none of it worked. I was on the treadmill of life. Chasing, seeking and searching. Again and again. Saying “I’ll be happy when…” But the happiness never arrived.

    My breaking point came a few months ago. I came back from a trip around the world wich I had ended. I went back to my old life; the life I had before I had left. After a few weeks the anxiety wich I even had when I decided to go on a world trip, came back in my life.

    While living for other people, I still ignored my inner voice and suppressed the call of my heart.

    I was miserable.

    I woke up every day with a pit of dread in my stomach. I was riddled with anxiety. I felt stuck, overwhelmed and paralysed with fear. I was unsure how to move forward. Unable to shift my inner crap. Completely and utterly lost. I just wanted to give up. And things began to fall apart.

    And clearly my internal world was a complete and utter mess! I realised it was time to get to work. I began implementing the practices I knew about but had never lived.

    I recently made a plan: I got to work clearing out my inner crap. I adjusted my eating habits, said goodbye to my strained relationship with sport, spent more time on my yoga mat, I started with meditating and connecting with myself. I began to think kindly towards myself, to care for myself and to notice the beauty within.

    And it feels good.
    It feels great.

    I`m starting to follow my heart right now and doing what I love.

    But it`s scary, soo scary.

    Because I`m going in an unknown direction; I`ll quite my job this month, leaving the country where I lived the last 5 years and want to take some me-time at a inspirational place somewhere on the planet till I find myself back again. And because of the point that I really don`t know where my `home` is. I`m not at home where I`m living right now and have to find out where it is when it is not right here..

    X

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Noortje,

      Thank you so much for your comment.

      Many years ago I was the same, always searching outside of myself for happiness until I realised I had to look within.

      Your home my darling is in your heart. Connect with that place and you will never be lonely.

      xx

  6. Aimee says:

    Thank you for your inspiration Melissa! Reading your post is enabling me to venture out into what I truly desire. I am at the start of my journey, as I hit rock bottom last year and have noticed that everyday ,I am healing myself through the power of positive thoughts and radiating love and light into my life. I do still at times feel depressed and get anxious, but nothing like it truly once was. I ask myself frequently your two questions. As I’m doing a degree and nearly at the end of it, I’m questioning what I truly want to do. My time is mainly spent doing assignment work and researching for my dissertation. Doing my degree, has enabled me to gain an insight to who I can now become, as I used to lack the belief within me and would follow the crowd.

    I know who I am want to become and where I want to be, but I am scared of not achieving this and find myself lately feeling very unhappy and discontent that because my daily routines consist of uni work 6 days a week, over the last 5 months, I’m not going to unlock my true potential. I have had adjustments in my life with friendships, at work, my parents and at university, that have made me judge my own perception of what I truly want to become… But I am eager to venture into the light of hope and find what it is that will enlighten me and discover my full potential 🙂 x

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Aimee,

      Keep doing what is true for you my love and stay present. That is the best thing you can do right now.

      xx

  7. Jodi says:

    Hi Melissa,

    I am in love and frustrated at this blog all at once. Ha!

    2 questions if you don’t mind me asking:

    How did you beat your eating disorder?

    And did you wait to get your shit together before you embarked on your passion and purpose or did you just do it all at once?

    Jodi xx

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hey Jodi,

      No I don’t mind at all my darling.

      Question 1 – It took some time but I did a lot of internal work on myself and still do 😉

      Question 2 – No I didn’t wait until I got my shit together, I just kept following my heart darling. I let my heart guide me.

      Hope this helps sweetie pie.

      xx

      • Jodi says:

        Thank you so much for your reply. Can I ask what internal work you did? Is that when you started meditation? I know what I have to change internally but dont know how and I want to do it now, today. You have inspired me and penetratedmy soul.

        I have no bloody idea how to fulfil my passion and purpose while mending my heart, but I am going to give it a bloody good shot.

        You need a tv show so the world can wake up too you everyday!! You are awesome!

        Love Jodi x

      • Melissa Ambrosini says:

        hehehe thanks for the compliment honey. Maybe one day I will have my own show 😉

        Regarding the internal work I did – I sat in stillness every day with my journal. I reflected on how I was feeling, my beliefs etc. I also got a lot of support from other people such as energetic healers, kinesiologists, meditation teachers etc.

        That’s a great place to start.

        xx

  8. anggie says:

    hi melissa reading your post and getting trough your website gives me strength for what my passion is even when i feel is almond imprsible, im a student from colombia 22 years old ame to sydney to study marketing and after facing eating disorders have realise my passion is become a health coach i found IIN course got enrolled but i feel extremely overmwelmed sad and dissaponted of myself because i can’t get away of this ED disorder that is ruining my life and stopping me from being happy, walk my talk and do my career. to be honest you are my grates inspiration right now. and i hope one day i could get close to were you are now.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Anggie,

      You can my darling.

      Remember you are perfect and beautiful exactly the way you are.

      xx

  9. Sarah says:

    Thank you so much for this post, your beautiful words were exactly what I needed to read at this moment. I truly love how the universe has perfect timing! My passion is teaching karate, helping children & adults to unleash their inner superhero & reach their full potential. Im not clear on what my purpose is yet but I know I will find it through teaching karate. Lots of love xx

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      WOW! Sounds amazing honey. I love your passion and would love to do karate. I want to ask you, why can’t your passion be your purpose?

  10. Belle says:

    Thank you Melissa xo
    Yep…. that’s me, I don’t know my passion or purpose.
    What do I spend hours doing? I spend hours reading blogs / fb about health and well being, to help my 2 kids (7&2) be healthier and now me too. I read so much but don’t apply to myself with major financial strains as my constant excuse. I also spend hours drooling over interiors magazines.
    What lights me up? Recognition / Positive feedback that I may have helped someone.
    I have a background in Beauty Therapy, however my beliefs and knowledge about toxin exposure prevents me from delving back into mainstream beauty, along with a dodgy wrist and back. I do not enjoy sales. I am in the process of “having” to work anywhere and feeling railroaded into applying for jobs that serve no true passion and I am afraid I will never figure out my true purpose. I have lost a lot of confidence and find it hard to imagine being truly happy and secure financially.
    Wow that was big for me to put that in writing so publicly. Thank you xo

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Beautiful,

      Well done for being so brave and sharing that. I know many women who feel the same. I think it’s great that you just recognised you use money as an excuse. Being aware of what you are doing is the first place to start. Now it’s your job to catch it when ever your Mean Girl goes to use it as an excuse again.

      If you are passionate about health and well being start to explore that a bit more. Don’t worry about how it is all going to work or unfold, just start to give it a bit more time and energy. Remember energy flows where your attentions goes.

      xx

  11. Eva says:

    Very inspiring post! I too struggled with finding my passion and purpose for a while. But just recently I think I came closer and was even brave enough to – you know – just do it! I started a blog and have big visions. Yayyy! 🙂 It is exactly as you say – if you can loose hours over it and if doing it makes you heart sing – than you know you´re on the right track. I still am passionate about more than one thing which I think is totally OK – I love everything about nutrition and wellbeing and I love talking about it but also am very passionate about the art world. So we will see what it will be, or maybe it will be both for me in my future – I trust your words that everything will unfold just as it is supposed to. Thanks for being such an inspiration! xx

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Well done Eva! Virtual high fives for you sista 😉

      It will all unfold exactly how it’s supposed to. Keep nurturing both your passions and let what ever happen happen.

      Wishing you all the luck my darling.

      xx

  12. Katherine says:

    Hi Melissa

    Great post. I struggle to follow my passion it definitely sits on the shelf collecting dust way to much. My passion is art I have loved creating things since I can remember. I currently work as a secretary and honestly I am so unhappy. Everyday I think of a life where I can wake up to creating all day however it doesn’t pay the bills. Not living the life I would like to affects my health as I emotionally eat and have put on a lot of weight recently. I seem to get on the right track however just don’t seem to stay there. I haven’t yet worked out my purpose in life as yet I think once I am living my passion my purpose will follow. Thank you for your wonderful post you are truly an inspiring person.
    Kat xx

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      It sure will sweetie pie.

      For now focus of doing the things you love and stop doing the things you don’t.

      Keep me posted with how you go my love.

      xx

  13. Jessie says:

    Thanks Mel, this is great. I have realised what my purpose is, as I could loose hours (and sometimes do on my days off) reading your blog for wellness inspiration. I am so passionate about health and wellness and I feel that I need to take steps to be a holistic health coach but have been scared about it for sometime.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      How exciting honey that you realised this now. I am so excited for you. Don’t let your Mean Girl stop you any longer.

      Now, what is the next thing you need to do to get the ball rolling?

      • Jessie says:

        I have to change my course of action.. I am currently studying a Bachelor of Health Science but so unmotivated it’s not funny. I have heard great reports about IIN and should give it a go. I just find it so hard to get the confidence as my mean girl is pretty strong most days and always listen to what others tell me I should do. Fear of failure is a big concern. When should you stop being romantic about decisions and start being realistic? I mean, I have so much passion but not sure if my passion can be translated into my purpose, and for my purpose to be successful. Thanks for your encouragement

      • Melissa Ambrosini says:

        Have you read this post yet honey http://melissaambrosini.bitnamiapp.com/wealth/how-to-find-your-purpose-in-life%e2%80%8f

        You absolutely can turn your purpose into a successful business all you have to do is believe it and not let your Mean Girl tell you other wise 😉

        xx

  14. Stacey says:

    Hi Mel,
    Thanks for your post – I love your writing style,
    Not sure I necessarily agree with the ‘make your passion your career’ viewpoint. I think you can have a successful career and separately enjoy hobbies which you are passionate about.

    Marie Forleo had a great vid/article on the topic recently called “Why You’ll Never Find Your Passion” and said –
    “Skills and strengths trump passion when it comes to doing deeply rewarding work that matters. When you employ your natural strengths as well as skills you’ve honed and mastered over time, satisfaction abounds.”

    I agree with Marie; when you use your skills and strengths to help others or contribute to something, you’ll be satisfied.

    To me the most important issues in choosing a career are:
    – Working conditions – hours, pay, colleagues, culture
    – Opportunities for growth
    – Use of your natural talents
    – Ability to contribute to the community (in whichever way small or large)
    – Realism – for example, entrepreneurship can sound very sexy but it isn’t always the case. Research the realities of your chosen career – a friend of mine works in a large law firm and works so many hours that her effective pay rate is less than that earned at Mcdonalds – but many people assume that lawyers have very high salaries.

    Once those factors all line up with your ideal lifestyle, I believe your career will be more satisfying.

    As a child I was expected to go on to great things – lawyer, doctor, rocket scientist, you name it. In my 3rd year of law school, I seriously questioned my decision to become a lawyer, and considered pouring my efforts into becoming a personal trainer and health coach. It wasn’t until I realised that the working hours and pay rates of a PT were horrendous, that my skills were better suited to law, that I could still keep health as a hobby, and that a regular pay check is not something to minimise, that I realised a career as a lawyer was actually better suited to me after all. I don’t regret giving up on a job in health, it’s still a part of my life – just not a paying one!

    x

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hey Stacey,

      Thanks for sharing.

      Totally agree with this statement – when you use your skills and strengths to help others or contribute to something, you’ll be satisfied. And if you can do that with law, brilliant.

      Enjoy my darling.

  15. Ellen says:

    Today Melissa, your website has made me cry. Your lovefest video, which is quite possibly the most beautiful and uplifting thing I’ve ever seen, your kind words and your belief in everyone… Well it’s all just made me realise I am not living the best version of my life. I don’t know when or how it happened but I’ve stepped off the path of self love and I’m just not sure where I am anymore. I love travelling, it gets me fired up and excited about life. It touches me, seeing other people and other places. I left Australia 2 years ago to come to Canada just to see what might happen. And so much happened! I fell in love, I travelled, I spent all my money, and I came back from it. But now.. I’m not satisfied, I’ve gained weight, I can’t seem to get myself off the couch. I have a wonderful relationship but I know this is something I have to work through myself, he can’t do it for me. I am passionate that you can design your own life, that what works for someone else doesn’t have to work for your too. But that you can literally design every aspect of it to suit you. My purpose.. Well I feel useless at the moment to be honest. I don’t feel like I could help anyone, let alone myself. But perhaps my purpose is to overcome that and help other people design a life they love. Thank you for being an inspiration Melissa.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Ellen,

      That sounds like a pretty awesome purpose.

      Focus on you first my darling and the rest will unfold the way it’s ment to.

      xx

  16. Katriin says:

    Hi Melissa!

    First of all, let me tell you how much this article and your webpage means to me and how much I can relate. I went on the path You were talking in the beginning – I studied law – ’cause that’s what everybody does, isn’t it? Worked as a lawyer for 8 years, always knowing in my heart and the back of my head that this is not what I was suppose to be doing, there’s gotta be more to life. And then I got sick – I had a bad case of eczema, literally leaving a trail of skin everywhere I went, my hair stop growing, my blood was inflamed etc. Nobody knew what was going on. I was so stressed out. And to make matters worse – I was laid off from my job. I was a wreck – I was sick, scared and sad. But I didn’t just let myself fall into depression (have dealt with that as well in the past) and took this as a sign that I need to work on my dreams – which leads to my passion – my passion is creativity – making hair adornments and now starting a little dress making business.

    Meanwhile, my sickness didn’t go away, I was stuck in other people sayings, that you cant make money with your passion etc and scared to death because of it. This brings me to my purpose – my purpose right now is to get over my fears, not to worry about the future, continue with my passion and believe (and I mean not only in my head but truly feel it) that if you “Trust in what you love, continue to do it, it will take you where you need to go”.
    And believe it or not, from the moment I acknowledged the fact that I don’t want a nine to five job and there is only one option for me – doing what I love, what lights me up – I started getting better.

    There is still a little fear in me..but I don’t let it take control anymore,I take a deep breath and think about love and passion.

    PS it wasn’t all bad working 8 years as a lawyer – I knew there was a purpose in it as well, as I met my amazing wonderfully supportive husband.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Hi Katriin,

      How lovely that you met your amazing man, so happy for you. Yep everything does happen for a reason and I am SOOOOO glad you are now following your heart. Keep going my darling, the world needs your special gifts.

      xx

  17. Danica says:

    Hi Melissa,
    This post is so relevant to me! I’m 16 and I hated school with a passion due to battling anxiety and depression, so I saw the schools career counselor and told her what my interests were and told her what courses I’ve already looked at and like. One of the courses was Conservation and Land Management. She immediately told me that it’s a tough industry to get into and more than likely a 16 year old wont get into, it’s bad pay and I will have to be over qualified.
    I went there with hope of being encouraged to do what i desperately wanted and left with my heart crushed. But after a months thought, I went nope stuff it I’m going to apply for the Diploma of Conservation and Land Management, I’m sticking to what I want to do, I dont care what others think.
    A week later I was talking with family friends about what I planned to do, and they just said wow I know someone who runs an ecological company 5 minutes from your house.
    And everything did work out and I’m doing what I want to do. I’m interning with the company and today started my course.
    But something that happened between school and starting the course is i found yoga, meditation and clean eating. I felt so much better after the first day i found it i instantly loved it and the way I felt.

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      How beautiful Danica.

      Thank you so much for sharing that honey and well done for following your heart <3

      xx

  18. Jess says:

    Hi Mel,

    You have really reached the heart of the message in your writing. Put it in black and white and cut out the bull! I agree with everything you are saying. I know my passion and directions in life. It took me a long, long time to realise that it was ‘OK’ that I not follow the 9-5 stable married with kids blah blah blah life that most of my family and friends had.

    The only problems is that I am now a single mum with a little 8 month old. (The move to be a single mum, was however one of the big changes that will allow me to follow my passion…)

    However! Finding the stamina to keep on going and believing in my dream is my hardest thing. Any advice on how to find that inner strength? I find, I get a ‘high’ for a day, with a plan and all my ideas running around, then, the next day. Back to rock bottom.

    Would love your wisdom! xxo
    cheers,
    Jess

    • Melissa Ambrosini says:

      Great question Jess!

      The best way to stay motivated and on your path is to continue to tap into that feeling you get deep within when you think about your dream life. Continue to tap into that feeling and don’t let your Mean Girl tell you otherwise. There is no other secret my love. Keep tapping into that feeling day by day. It’s a moment to moment practice my darling.

      Does that help?

      • Jess says:

        Yes thank you. You are right, there is no easy way around it! One thing worth noting, is that had not things hit me rock bottom this full turn around in life would never have occurred! only good can come from the bad!

  19. Gina says:

    I don’t know what lead me to your site but I am so glad I am here. I needed this post, I have had the similar path, college, career, blah blah. I have a great corporate job that is completely unfulfilling. I am so inspired by art, calligraphy, event creation and design, and interiors, and fashion. I spend so much time thinking I need a change but don’t know what direction I should take. Learn calligraphy? Paint? Become an interior designer? Open a clothing boutique? All of these things sound more fulfilling and exciting and rewarding than what I’m doing now. Feeling stuck.

  20. Amy says:

    This is a subject that is close to my heart and a place that I am struggling to find at the moment. I am confused and I would say am second guessing my purpose and passion.

    What lights me up is helping others, allowing them a space to talk and share their problems and concerns and offering constructive advice and my own personal learnings. What makes my heart sing is that moment when you walk away from a conversation and you think I really learn something new or shared something new with someone, that feeling of sharing and expanding my knowledge or someone else’s. I lose hours and hours writing in my journal about whatever is on my mind and day dreaming stories of passion, love and life.

    From these I guess I would say my passion is sharing my knowledge and advice with others. And my purpose is to create a place for this to happen, though what type of place or how is still uncertain. The world is my oyster! I just have to figure out the best way to make it happen, though like you said this is my choice. Time to get my research on and to open the heart, the choice has to come out of love and not fear.

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Amy,

      Thank you so much for sharing. I am excited for you to share your knowledge and wisdom with the world.

      You could start with a blog, that’s how I started. Have you thought about that honey? I think that would be a great way for you to start sharing your thoughts.

      Would love to hear your perspective on this.

      xx

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