There is a natural ebb and flow in life. Sometimes you feel really inspired to write and create, and other times you just want to stay in bed all day. Don’t judge it. It is what it is. Life’s all about riding the waves, baby.

As women, we have an inbuilt ebb and flow rhythm called our ‘moon cycle’. This means that throughout the different phases of the month, our energy is going to wax and wane, just like the moon does. This cyclical aspect of your being is something you can’t escape, no matter how hard you try, and I’ve found that it’s far better to work with this natural rhythm than to struggle against it.

During the ebb phase of your moon cycle — your ‘red moon’ — you may feel like coming out of fifth gear and sliding back into first. You may also feel totally introverted and want to lay in bed, sipping rose and raspberry leaf tea (great for your lady bits) and journal all day. Then, after your red moon, you may experience a surge of energy — like you can conquer the world. It’s a natural rhythm of life and we must honour it.

Years ago, I would ignore this cycle and just push, push, push. I was very type A; always striving and wanting to do, be and achieve more. Go harder, push faster was my motto. Now — and maybe it comes with age, marriage, and officially becoming a step mama — everything has shifted gears. I don’t want to push; I prefer to flow. Life is much nicer that way. This doesn’t mean I’m not driven anymore — quite the opposite, actually. It just means I have taken the Sisyphean pushing-a-cement-truck-up-a-hill feeling out of the equation.

I have read a lot of books from successful entrepreneurs and leaders who say you got to work hard; that you’ve got to put in the 14 hour days if you want your business to take off. And I get it — I am all for putting in the work. But I took it a little too literally…

Someone once said to me that during the week, it’s all about ‘head down, bum up’. No catching up with friends for tea or going out for dinner, just sit behind your computer and work your ass off, sista.

So I did.

And promptly burnt myself out in the process. Not to mention made myself seriously unhappy. But then I realised something: All those people that had been telling me to lock myself in my office and not move my tush until I’d inspired billions around the world all had one thing in common… they were male.

Now, this is not an attack towards men, I love men. This is simply a conversation to highlight the difference in the masculine and feminine energy systems we all have inbuilt within us. Being an entrepreneur takes balls. It calls for you to step more into your masculine, ‘yang’ energy. However, I have learnt that women flow better when we listen to our body. When we tune in and follow the natural ebb and flow of our moon cycle.

I have also realised that we thrive off deep, soulful connections with each other. We feed off the energetic exchange we experience when we’re in the same room. It unlocks our sacred feminine and fires up our shakti, which is exactly why I started a Goddess Circle with my girlfriends. It inspires me to be around that feminine energy. And when I truly honour that, I feel liberated. No more guilt around not sitting behind my computer writing and creating 24/7; I’m able to enjoy being out in the world and experiencing my life fully.

It’s also important because I am a people person. I get off on connecting with people and hearing their stories. I freaking love it! I guess I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing if I hated people, that’s for sure. I love helping others and have done since a very young age. I’m extroverted. Big. Colourful. Bubbly. Enthusiastic. Passionate. Positive. Energetic and over-excited at the same time. It’s part of who I am and I am only now fully embracing it.

Respecting your own ebb and flow is essential for women who want to do more and feel good.

So these days, letting go of the masculine in me that wants to push-push-push, and instead sliding into my feminine energy is what lights me up from my core.

I had a friend ask me the other day how she could fire up her creative juices after her moon cycle. She said she sometimes struggles to re-light her fire within.

Here’s My Advice…

1. Get out from behind your computer, get out of the house, and go be in nature — stat. Go for a walk in the park or on the beach. Dive in the ocean and get the sun on your skin.
2. Move your body. Jump on a rebounder (great for your lymphatic system). Head to your favourite yoga class, dance class or turn up Beyoncé in your lounge room and dance like no one is watching.
3. Paint. Draw. Knit. Or create something with your hands. (Lego is also a great option!)
4. Journal it out. Write down exactly how you are feeling right there in that moment and then keep writing until you can’t write any more.
5. Sip organic herbal tea in nature whilst reading a good book. There’s something super powerful and divinely feminine about the combination of tea, a good book, and nature that really fires up your creativity.
6. Catch up with an inspiring friend, either in person or over the phone. I am incredibly inspired by energetic, uplifting people. I always leave feeling lit up from my core.
7. And finally… Meditate. It fixes everything!

Now it’s over to you, gorgeous: How do you get your creative juices flowing? Share with us in the comments below.

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As always, thank you so much for being here. Writing for you truly lights me up.