We are only here on this earth for a short period of time. Every second, of every minute, of every day, brings with it new possibilities that are there to be seized and used as a tool to carve out a better future from moment to moment.
Of course, what happened in the past — even just one minute ago — no longer matters. The past is just a story we keep telling ourselves; it doesn’t actually exist anymore. Neither does the future — what’s happening in an hour, tomorrow or next year is just a figment of your imagination. What matters is this precious moment right now. This second. That’s all!
When you realise you don’t have to stress out over what happened in the past, and that the future doesn’t exist yet, you are left with this beautiful, expansive space in the middle where juicy, infinite possibilities are at your fingertips. How exciting! This is where the magic lies. Right here in this moment.
So let me ask you this… How are you showing up?
Right now, are you showing up as the fullest version of yourself? Or are you showing up as the cranky, half-assed version of you?
As most of you know, my bestie Jess recently left her physical form. And although there has been tremendous sadness, pain and heartache, I have also felt inspired — actually, blown away — by the beautiful legacy this woman has left behind. She has inspired millions of people all over the world by simply being her beautiful, unique, authentic self. She unapologetically lived her truth, and that is why I love her.
I knew Jess was an incredible influence on people’s lives, but I guess when you are besties with someone, it’s easy to become immune to just how huge their impact truly is. After I wrote this post, I was filled with so much love and awe at how many souls she touched for the better. Through my tears, I read every comment, moved by the words that were pouring from people’s hearts all over the world. I could feel their love through the computer screen and I felt an enormous sense of pride to call her my soul sister.
This got me thinking about my own legacy:
Am I going to leave this earth in the best possible shape I can?
Am I acting as my highest self in every moment?
Am I showing up fully and completely in every moment?
Am I being unapologetically me in each moment?
Or am I playing small? Limiting myself and letting my Mean Girl run the show?
Yet again, Jess is my biggest inspiration here and is constantly calling me to play higher every day. In moments of despair I can hear her voice saying, ‘Come on Mel, you can do this beautiful’.
I remember this one time we were standing in her kitchen drinking green juice (of course) and I had just found out that I landed my book deal. I said to her, ‘My Mean Girl is telling me I can’t do this. Did you ever have that?’ And without a moment’s hesitation she responded, ‘Nup! Why would you think that? We can do whatever we want!’
That was typical Jess. She never doubted her ability, she never let her Mean Girl tell her she couldn’t do anything, and she never played small. I love this about her.
What you do in this moment matters and is shaping the story and message of your entire life.
The dictionary defines legacy as ‘gifts or a bequest handed down from one person to another’.
However, I prefer this definition: Legacy is about sharing what you have learned, not just what you have earned; material wealth is only a small fraction of your legacy. A more holistic view of legacy is when you are genuinely grounded in offering yourself and making a meaningful, lasting and energising contribution to humanity by serving a cause greater than yourself. The requirements of a legacy are that you embrace your uniqueness, passionately immersing your whole self into life so that your gift will be to all, and that you take responsibility to ensure that it will have a life beyond that of you, its creator, outliving and outlasting your time on earth.
Legacy is not an entity, but an ongoing activity — it’s what you do between here and eternity. The lens of legacy gives you a view of your life from a generational perspective, where you become aware of the desire to live beyond yourself, focusing on making a difference in the lives of others, and giving back.
The legacy you leave is the life you lead, and therefore legacy is the residue of a life well lived. Your life matters as everything that you say and do is a deposit into your legacy. Creating your legacy is a pathway resulting in a deep sense of significance, where true meaning is found somewhere beyond the pursuit of success, which results in a ripple effect that positively impacts society. Inherently, when you shift to living your legacy, your influence comes from who you are authentically at your core and you measure value and life purpose other than by emphasis on accomplishments, wealth, recognition, prestige, acclaim, power or position.*
So my darling I pose this question to you…
What legacy are you creating right now?
When you ponder that question, maybe losing it at your kid this morning for taking too long to tie their shoelaces, or stressing over the fact that your ebook design is taking a million years, or being peeved off at your partner for leaving his towel on the floor now feel insignificant and totally ridiculous. In the big scheme of things, none of that really matters. It all comes back to being present and showing up in every moment fully as your best self. That’s all we can ever do.
So what does your best self actually look like? It’s helpful to consciously map it out.
My best self is calm, grounded, present, patient, loving, honest, authentic, giving, loyal and open, just to name a few.
Now it’s your turn… What does your best self look like? Share with me in the comments below. And remember, thousands of people visit this site daily. Your insights might be the one thing they need to read to ignite massive change within their lives. So please be open and loving.