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The Art Of Hosting A Goddess Circle

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Once a month, usually on the full moon, I get together with my girlfriends for what we call ‘The Goddess Circle’. We are all full (I don't use the word busy) — loads of things going on, heaps of people to catch up with, some have husbands and kids to look after and to-do lists as long as the Thames — but that’s not a good enough excuse to not see your soul sistas and call in the divine feminine.

You see, us ladies thrive on feminine energy. It’s what lights us up and inspires us. Back in the day when we were surrounded by our tribe, women worked together. Nowadays one is perceived to go at it alone. And you may notice that if you go weeks without seeing your soul sister's, you feel off. That’s because our soul craves that nurturing, feminine energy. In fact, we need it in order to be our fullest, most wholehearted divine selves.

We are hardwired for soul-to-soul connection.
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So, I have taken the liberty of putting together everything you need to know to host a Goddess Circle with your own soul sistas...

1. Pick A Person Who Is Going To Host The Circle At Their Home

For the most recent full moon, that was me!

2. Give Plenty Of Notice

The host sends out an email or digital calendar invites confirming the details. Mine looked something like this:

Beautiful goddess,

Please join together for the next Goddess Circle on [insert next full moon date] at my place*. Please arrive at 6pm and bring an organic dish to share.

Looking forward to seeing you then.

P.S Please RSVP by [insert date] so I know how many to cook for.

Love Melissa

*134 Love Street,
Heart Town

It’s important to send out this email a month in advance, especially if your girlfriends have kids — they need extra time to make arrangements and rope in a babysitter!

3. Plan Your Food

The host usually cooks one main dish, with guests bringing along a share plate as well. I made an organic vegetable curry, which was a huge hit. Ensure that you make enough for everyone, and that you cater for people’s dietary requirements. In my circle, we try to ensure that all of the food is organic, and gluten, dairy and sugar free. We also make sure there is a few vegan options for those who choose not to eat animal products.

Stuck for ideas on what to make?

Check out some of the delicious recipes in my ebook The Glow Kitchen. Get creative! Think colourful salads, roast coconut veggies, cultured foods, warm soups, coconut curry, kelp noodle pad thai, vegetable frittata and hearty casseroles.

4. Set The Mood

As the host, the atmosphere you create for your sista's is so important. I like to light beeswax candles, burn sage before they arrive, put on some beautiful heart opening music, dim the lights, diffuse some organic essential oils and make the space as warm and comfortable as possible.

5. The Guests Arrive

As a guest, always be conscious of the energy you bring into the space. (And try not to be late — the energy of rushing and hurrying isn’t a good way to start your evening of sacred sisterhood!)

6. Blessings

We all sit, the host gives thanks for the food and for each other, and we say a little prayer. We then eat and talk, eat and talk ... then eat and talk some more!

7. Get Intimate

After dinner we all sit around the table on the floor with herbal tea and raw cacao goodies for the more intimate part of the night.

8. Time For A Releasing Ritual

Hand around pens and Post-it notes and get everyone to write down three things they want to dissolve or let go off. Go around the group, reading them out to each other, then scrunching ‘em up and throwing them in a bowl in the middle of the table. (Some people like to burn the papers, but I prefer the less risky — and less smoky! — practice of just scrunching and releasing.) There is also something so powerful about publicly declaring what you want to let go of. It helps hold you accountable.

9. Gratitude

After releasing comes … gratitude! We all write down three things we are deeply grateful for and three things we want to call into our life. Again, we all go around the group and share what we’ve written.

10. Wrap Up

The night wraps up whenever you feel like it. Usually with plenty of hugs and loads of divine, grounded energy thrumming in our hearts.

Helpful Tips

  • Always try to arrive on time. Of course, things are going to pop up now and then, so if that does happen, make sure you text the host ASAP to let them know.
  • It’s important that everyone knows that what happens in the circle, stays in the circle. The circle is a safe scared space for everyone to express their truth, feel held and show up authentically. Honor that sacred sisterhood pact.
  • Throughout the night, we like to recommend books, recipes, cafes, healers, films, albums and documentaries to help support each other. I can type these in the notes section on my smartphone or bring a little journal.
  • In summer, it's great to hold the entire evening outdoors, so we can soak in the powerful energy of the moon. There is something so incredibly healing about tuning in with the potent energy of the moon, especially on that time of the month. Ideally, our cycles should be in sync with the moon cycle and one way to help your body get in sync is by spending time under the moon's rays. Get outside at night as much as you can, and if you can sleep with the blinds open so the moon can shine down on you whilst you sleep.
  • Make sure your phone is on silent or on airplane mode, there's nothing more annoying then when someone's phone keeps dinging every two seconds. Respect your sista's and be present.

Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever been to a Goddess Circle? If so, do you have any other ideas, tips of tricks we could add to this list? Please share in the comments below.

As always, thank you so much for the love, advice and support you pour into the comments. You warm my heart.

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    • August 28, 2014

      How amazing that this popped in my mailbox minutes after securing a space to hold my first circle for pregnant women! Great tips :) Thank you!

    • Milica
      August 28, 2014

      What a great article! Thanks xxx

    • August 28, 2014

      Oh I absolutely LOVE this post Mel! I love having girlfriends over for dinner and this is such a a gorgeous guide to give it more depth and ceremony and magic. I am going to email my girlfriends right away. I've been enjoying your Italy pictures- thanks for sharing your awesome adventure there as well.

      Kirstin

    • Meagan
      August 28, 2014

      This sounds like such a beautiful thing to do, my girlfriends and I religiously see each other every 3-5 weeks for dinner, we all meet at the same resturant that we have for the last 12 years (since end of school), I drive 45 mins just to see them as does another friend. We let out all our problems and talk about family, partners , holidays, I don't think my friends would Iike a goddess circle as it might sound airy fairy to them , but I feel what he do is just more of a modernised version, however I'm going to endeavour to release and be gratuitous in the next full moon and create my own circle as this sounds perfect. Thank u for always insightful and inspiring word

    • August 28, 2014

      Hey Mel
      I have been enjoying your site for a couple of weeks now. The girl power it exudes is a little overwhelming but enjoyable all the same.
      I am hearing you on the whole 'Goddess Circle' sister, but i want to put my 2 bob's (thats 20 cents for all you girls born after 1980) worth in....... just as important as the Goddess get togethers (and i encourage my partner Beck to do it), is Male to Male time. The Mens Shed is a great example of this. To take that to the next step though, is the shared time between close friends .....like your Dad and I. It requires that type of friendship to allow the good 'healing' emotions to come out of us boys. Although we may not be as fancy on the food side of things (beer and chips usually does it), it is more the masculine type get togethers. I have a BFF that i have not seen for years lives in Tassie and he and i have done cattle mustering weekends, white water rafting weekends, camping and general rugged type stuff. the bond that was formed in those weekends allows us now after several or more years to just pick up the phone and tell it like it is........ So YES YES YES to the Goddess Circle get togethers, and just importantly YES YES YES to Beer and Boys weekends!! It makes us better partners too!!

      • Melissa Ambrosini
        August 29, 2014

        Hi Bill,

        So nice to hear from you. You're 100% right the men need to do it also. My husband actually has a conscious mens ground that meet every fortnight (they are more organised then us girls who only meet once a month). He loves it and I think it's such a great idea. We can all get so busy with life that we forget to take these moments with our friends.

        Sending you loads of love.

        xx

    • Shai Stebbins
      August 28, 2014

      I LOVE this Melissa!
      I'm so keen to organise one with my Soul Sisters. Thank you so much for sharing this! Love your work!
      Love and kindness,
      Shai

    • August 28, 2014

      My girlfriends and I have been holding moon circles for a while now too. Love them! Such a beautiful way to connect with your soul sisters. A few of us are yoga and meditation teachers, so we take it in turns to take each other through some very gentle yoga and meditation. Really nice to way to open the circle as it helps everyone come out of their heads and into their heart space.x

    • August 28, 2014

      This is an amazing idea! What better way to reconnect with yourself and girlfriends! We all need a little time to truly relax and let go. When you think your life is hectic you realize that there is so much to be grateful inside of all that chaos.

    • Nat Perez
      August 28, 2014

      This is such a wonderful (and timely) idea! There is something so special about grounding yourself alongside beautiful women in these frenetic times. Thank you so much for the tips, I think I've got a goddess circle to organise! xx

    • August 28, 2014

      Melissa... I have been a follower of your work for a while now: voraciously reading your posts/making your Munchies/listening to your meditations.

      Never commented before, just happy to observe from the sidelines - until now.

      This post made my heart SING with joy. I think it is SO super important for women to have nights like this... I have been running them myself for a few years now, and am so heartened that you are also getting the message out there.

      You truly are a beautiful soul. I highly recommend the book (if you've not read it) "The Red Tent" by Anita Diamant which inspired me to start my Circle.

      Sending love sister xx

    • August 28, 2014

      I absolutely LOVE our goddess nights... And you!!
      Xxx

    • August 28, 2014

      Perfect timing beautiful.
      I've been in one place long enough, and it's time! I'm craving it!
      Thanks for continuing to inspire me

      x x x

    • August 28, 2014

      I love this idea. Thanks for the post & inspiration. Looking forward to the next full moon! xx

    • August 28, 2014

      Melissa, I love this article. I found it really helpful and inspiring. Thanks heaps x Lib

    • Charlotte
      August 28, 2014

      Hi Melissa

      I hope you are weel and that your trip to Italy is going amazing.

      I love your article. I think most of my meeting with my friend turn around topic that does not really matter and your article give me so much idea about having a really good meeting that give us opportunity to grow up each other together.

      Thank you everytime to share fabulous idea with us!

      Much love

      Charlotte

    • August 28, 2014

      Ooh this sounds amazing. I have never been to one but would love to. May have to organise :-) thanks xx

    • Erika
      August 28, 2014

      Wow! Thank you for such beautiful inspiration xx

    • August 28, 2014

      I LOVE this idea. Anyone located in Toronto, Canada who wants to start a goddess circle? hehe :) Thanks Mel for this beautiful ritual x

    • Kate
      August 30, 2014

      Hi Melissa, I just wanted to let you know you are very inspiring. Do you have any posts you could link me to about school exam tips? Year 12 exams are coming up soon and I dont know how to keep calm and do my best. K xx

      • Melissa Ambrosini
        August 30, 2014

        Hey Kate,

        Thank you so much for your kind words. I don't have anything in particular about school exams but the best thing you can do is meditation. Have you got my guided meditations yet? Try and do it in the morning and night, this will ease stress immediately for you.

        Give it a go and let me know how you go sweetie.

        xx

    • September 12, 2014

      I love this idea, and just need to round up a group of positive, key word, positive ( and open minded) female friends to share this with.

      Xo

    • November 6, 2014

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    • November 25, 2014

      Hi Melissa,
      Our group of Goddess friends do sleepovers at least once a year.....we live near Disney World and get a two or three bedroom villa at one of the resorts on property. Usually have a theme. Four of us have cruised together the past few years and wear a different Fascinator Hat to dinner each evening....we get so many compliments and meet some pretty terrific people as a result of the hats. This year we decided to start a little business and sell them online since they are so difficult to find. We are now up and running but we're still in our infancy. I invite you to check us out....in the meantime, I'm going to share your site with my Goddess friends...it's quite wonderful!

      http://goddessesgirlfriendsglitter.com/
      Betty Burkey

    • May 31, 2017

      Hi Mel, I love the idea of holding a 'goddess circle' with friends, but a lot of my friends, aren't really into this kind of thing. Any tips on how I can create a goddess circle for women who just want to connect with each other? I think it is so needed, physically connecting with other souls, sharing love and warmth. Love your work x

      • June 2, 2017

        Hey Lesley, Great question. You could head to your local yoga studio or organic cafe and put up a flyer or do a call out on your social media. Go where the type of women you want to surround yourself with hang out. Does that help sista?

        • Lesley
          June 2, 2017

          Yes! Thank you! I am a meditation teacher (just starting out) so I think this is going to be perfect for me!
          X

    • Julia Price
      October 15, 2017

      I have been holding circle's for about 3 years. I have the women say their name's and use one word to say how they feel then the other women repeat what she has said.
      We take turns washing each other's hands in rose water.
      If you need any suggestions. E-mail me: juliaaprice@gmail.com

      • October 17, 2017

        That sounds divine honey. Thank you so much for sharing. I wish you did it in Sydney. xx

    • Debbie
      March 26, 2018

      Thank you for the ideas . I’ve been thinking about this ever since I watched Girlfriends guide to divorce!

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