Today I’m going to let you in on my secret for a happy, love-filled life.
Are you ready for it?
In order to experience more of anything — whether it’s health, wealth, love, joy, happiness or anything else that lights you up and sets your heart thumping — you have to be and give more of the thing you want FIRST.
Sound confusing? Or counter-intuitive? Let me explain….
You want more health in your life? Well how can you give more health to yourself first? Are you nourishing your body with the highest quality foods and water possible? Are your daily habits aligned with your goals? Are you honouring your temple? Or are you trashing your bod and treating it like a dumpster?
If you want more health, you must give more health to yourself first. It’s a very simple lesson, but one I took a long time to learn. For years I would flog my body for hours at the gym, madly trying to whip myself into Victoria’s Secret-shape and wondering why the heck I couldn’t shift the weight. It wasn’t until I learned to love myself and nourish my body that my health started to improve and for the first time ever, I experienced genuine vitality. Before that, I didn’t actually know what feeling fabulously healthy really felt like (which is such a stark contrast to where I am today — now, nourishing my temple has become one of the greatest pleasures in my life).
So if you want more health, are you willing to give more to yourself first? Maybe you could head to your local health food store after work and pick up some fresh ingredients to make a delicious dinner tonight. Or instead of going for drinks with the girls, head to your favourite yoga class. Or rather than detouring past the vending machine for your 3 p.m. pick-me-up, go for a walk around the block. The sky’s the limit here, but start with something tangible: what are three things you you can do today to give yourself more health? Write them down now.
You want more wealth in your life? Be and give more wealth. By ‘be’ more wealthy, I mean dial up your internal worthy-o-meter and first become more within yourself. Feel how worthy you are in your cells. Know it in your bones. Let your soul sing with that certainty… Then give more. Give your last dollar, give a smile, give your ears to listen, give your precious time, give your hand to help… give, give, give. It’s super easy to go through life without ever giving back, but I am about to drop a big truth bomb on you: the Universe doesn’t work that way.
Everything is made up of energy and energy flows where your attention goes.
So if you are give-give-giving, you can imagine it like an energetic figure of eight — it will come back to you. That’s how the Universe works, my friends.
Want further proof? Have a guess what the one thing that Warren Buffett, Ray Dalio, Tony Robbins, Richard Branson and Oprah all have in common… That’s right: they all consciously choose to give-give-give… and then give some more.
Your work is a great place to start to give more. For example, I always aim to over-deliver and give as much as I can with everything I write, every product I create, and every word I speak. The intention of ‘How can I serve more?’ is always at the forefront of my mind with everything I do.
There’s an important caveat here that’s worth noting: You should never give to get. Give because your heart wants to, because it makes your soul dance and your spirit soar… not because you have an agenda and want something in return. There’s a big difference. One comes from love and the other from fear. (Don’t let your Mean Girl fool you here!)
You want more love in your life? Give more love! Don’t expect it to be handed to you on a silver platter. First, be love within yourself and then give more love to the people around you. Whenever I am feeling needy within myself (usually leading up to my moon cycle) and want more love, affection or attention from my husband, do you know what I do? I go and give it to him, even if I don’t ‘feel’ like it. I open my heart, pour love from mine to his and because this is precisely how the Universe works, it all comes flooding back to me and we are both surrounded by one giant, squishy love-bomb.
The same applies with your kids. If I want to experience more love with Leo, I must first give him more love. I let go of my expectations and become more. Then — just like magic — the love floodgates open up and wash over both of us like a beautiful, heart-fuelled tsunami.
In essence, whether we’re talking about health, wealth, love or anything in between, all of this boils down to one simple truth: we live in a responsive Universe. When you take a leap of faith by TAKING ACTION and giving of yourself, the Universe can’t help but respond. It follows your lead, and it’s waiting for you to make the first move… Don’t leave it hanging, sista!
So tell me, how can you give more health, wealth or love today? Share with me in the comments below so we can all get inspired and hold each other accountable. Remember, closing the door on your Mean Girl, being brave, and sharing your insights is KEY to taking inspired action and implementing real, sustainable change.
It’s also important not to just ‘think’ about what you are going to do. Write it down in the comments below: it’s way more potent that way.
As always beautiful, thank you so much for being so open and for sharing so lovingly. You guys seriously rock my world and I love reading every single word you share on these posts.
Oh, and don’t forget: your comment could be the one thing someone needed to read to spark massive shifts within their own life. So open that beautiful hearts of yours gorgeous, and share away angel.