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Low in energy? Constantly feel like you don’t have enough time? Always doing stuff for other people and never for yourself? If you can relate to any of these, it’s likely that you’re not setting and affirming boundaries as well as you could be… and it’s a sure bet you’re going to love today’s podcast!
Boundaries are the building blocks of healthy relationships and setting them is a powerful act of self-love… yet so many of us struggle in this area — and maybe even avoid thinking about them altogether. That’s why I was so excited to interview today’s podcast guest, self love guru and boundary expert Terri Cole.
Terri Cole is a New York-based licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert and founder of The Real Love Revolution and Boundary Bootcamp. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world’s most well-known personalities — from international pop stars, athletes, TV personalities to thought-leaders and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her strategies combine practical psychology, eastern mindfulness practices plus harnessing the power of intention to create positive, sustainable change and lasting transformation.
So if you want to dial up your self love, assert some healthy boundaries in your life and reclaim your energy and personal power, you are going to LOVE this wide-ranging conversation.
In this episode we chat about:
- How she got to where she is today and how she became an ambassador for self love (04:04)
- The revolution we should all be a part of (05:03)
- The two toxic emotions holding us back from true self-love (06:40)
- Boundaries 101: why they’re essential (and why so many of us struggle to set them) (07:44)
- The 4 signs you’ve got the ‘disease to please’ (08:47)
- The simple yet powerful phrase that will transform all your relationships (15:27)
- Know your deal breakers for epic relationships (18:24)
- The common boundary setting mistake that can screw up your relationships (22:00)
- How to assert your boundaries, even if you’re scared (26:59)
- What happens when we don’t assert our boundaries (32:16)
- The life-changing concept of ‘hello goodbye’ (32:44)
- The power of not doing the ‘auto yes’ (38:07)
- Why awareness is key for boundaries that feel true to you (40:00)
- How to set boundaries with your family (41:19)
- Plus so much more!
Episode resources:
- Open Wide by Melissa Ambrosini (book)
- Terri Cole’s TED Talk What If Fear Were Just A Feeling? (YouTube)
- Terri Cole’s Podcast (podcast)
- Terri Cole’s Boundary Bootcamp (website)
- Terri Cole’s Masterclass (website)
- The Real Love Revolution (podcast episode)
- Boundary Bootcamp (podcast episode)
- Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner (Amazon)
- Other books by Harriet Lerner (Amazon)
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown (Amazon)
- Other books by Brené Brown (Amazon)
- Brené Brown’s TED Talk The Power Of Vulnerability (YouTube)
Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I’m so honored that you’re here and would be so grateful if you could take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review in iTunes or on your podcast app, that way we can inspire even more people together.
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Really enjoyed this podcast Melissa. Loved Terri’s tips and stories. I am simultaneously reading your Open Wide book too. It all makes sense 🙂 I am already seeing the positive results when I put all of this wisdom into practice. Thank you so much! Xx
Pleasure honey. What have been your biggest takeaways so far?
Episode 81 with Terri spoke to me on so many levels. Everything she spoke about reformed the emotional journey I have been on over the last year. I can’t stop smiling for this information has reinforced my feeling of self love and growth. It has also highlighted for me areas where I can keep developing. AMAZING thank you and Arohanui xx
This was such an inspiring interview, Melissa! I can really relate to the “auto yes” habit. Saying no can be tough but I’ve noticed I feel much happier and less resentful since I’ve started putting boundaries in place. Thanks to you and Terry for all you do!
It’s so great becoming mindful of the ‘auto yes’ it’s changed my life. Now before I do the respond I stop, tune in and then respond. It’s so much nicer that way. xx
Hi beautiful, loved this podcast so much.
I couldn’t find the link for Terri’s master class ‘raise your love vibe’ or her self love meditation. Could you please share this ? X
Hey Tennille, click here for the masterclass and I believe the meditation is inside there too. Enjoy honey and let me know how you go. xx
Hi Melissa, Absolutely love your podcast I have shared them with my family and friends. You inspire me everyday and it’s good to reaffirm we need to stay on course to be the best version of ourselves. Stay true love it and love what you do xox
So proud of you honey. Keep shining and thank you SO MUCH for sharing the show with your family and friends. I am so grateful! xx