As well as being a health and life coach, I also help a lot of women in their businesses. We work out ways for them to create their dream life with a kick-ass business to match. Yesterday, I was chatting with one of my beautiful clients about her website. I asked her why she doesn’t have a sign-up box anywhere on her site. After some um-ing and ah-ing and tiptoeing around the question, she said “Because what if no one signs up?”
And there they were. Those two little words that underpin so many of our fears…
My heart melted for this beautiful soul because that is exactly how I felt in 2011 when I launched my own site and business. What if no one signs up, reads my posts or wants to work with me? What if people think I’m an idiot and hate what I write? What if, what if, what if?
I was plagued by these thoughts. They were running on a loop in my head. But here’s the thing: We can’t live our life in a constant state of what ifs. What ifs keep us small. They keep us stuck in a land where our Mean Girl runs the show. They keep us firmly planted in our comfort zone, never daring to live life to the full.
So how on earth do you move past this way of thinking? How do you say screw you to what if?
You have to remember who you truly are. Because the truth is, you are an amazing, infinite being. Capable of anything and everything your heart desires. And if you knew how truly magnificent you were, you would never entertain a what if ever again in your life.
I hear it all the time:
What if I get sick again?
What if I can’t afford it or they fire me?
What if he leaves me or breaks my heart?
When you only subscribe to these limiting what ifs, you’re closing yourself off from the boundless potential inside you.
What about the flip-side?
What if you are fine, healthy and strong?
What if the money shows up because you had the balls to follow the feeling?
What if you fall even more madly in love and take each other to depths of intimacy you’ve never been before?
If you want to experience being wildly wealthy, ridiculously healthy and bursting with love, you must let of go of those old what ifs and start opening yourself up to the new ones. Allow yourself to be here and experience this one beautiful, precious moment, the only moment we truly have. Connect in to your core and feel the raw, unbounded possibility that lives in each and every second.
Now, I want to challenge you. What are your what ifs, my darling? What do you keep telling yourself over and over again? What’s keeping you small? Share with me in the comments below. Awareness is key for true transformation, so once we’ve shone a light on our limiting what ifs, we can then choose to let them go. We can then start to consciously move beyond them.
Remember, your comment may be the one spark that truly inspires someone else to take action, so go ahead and leave your story below for our beautiful tribe, and if you liked this post please share it with your loved ones so that they too can start to let go of their limiting what ifs.
Thank you for being so freaking awesome and sharing your heart-fuelled comments — you have touched my soul and many others.