My path to wellness began at age 24 when I hit rock bottom in spectacular fashion. Though I’ve completely turned my life around since then, after spending nearly a quarter of a century trashing my body, I’m still paying the price.

I don’t regret anything about my actions back then — I believe everything happens for a reason — but to this day, I am still undoing the work from the years of torture I put my body through (think: junk food, antibiotics, the pill, alcohol and drugs, just to name a few). But as I sit here and write this, I realise now more than ever that health is a journey, not a destination. Health is about fine-tuning and continuing to step it up. Just like you would get a car serviced regularly, you constantly have to check in with your body and see how it’s going. Peel back another layer. Go deeper. Clean up more. It’s never ending…

Right now, I am working on healing leaky gut and candida. And yes — sometimes it’s frustrating that I still have health stuff even though I’m so proactive, especially when it manifests as hives and eczema on my skin. In fact, my mum said to me last week, ‘How does the healthiest person I know have leaky gut?!’ Great point! But this is just another layer of health for me. Another opportunity to detox further, clean up more, and go deeper before I even think about bringing a baby into this world. This is my divine responsibility.

If you’ve been hanging out in this neck of the interwebs for a while, you will know food is also heavily linked to our emotions and this wake up call has allowed me to see some areas I was placing too much power in food… yet another important lesson, and another area where I need to be conscious of choosing love over fear.

In fact, our bodies are messengers for all sorts of different lessons. Yet whenever we get any sort of illness or disease — whether it’s as simple as a cough or something more serious — the first thing we usually do is shoot the messenger. Body, you let me down; you’ve done this to me, it’s all your fault. But let’s take a step back here; let’s take some responsibility and quit pointing the finger. No one made you eat that third donut or drink your fifth low fat latte. Nope! You are the one in the driver’s seat, so stop shooting your messenger. I know it’s ‘easier’ to blame others, but your health is a great opportunity to stand up and take responsibility.

When the Universe gives you a little nudge with a warning sign, take note girlfriend!

Don’t wait for the Universe to pull the rug out from under you. Listen to the message and act according. Go see a naturopath or holistic GP, STAT! Do your own research, tune into your body, and listen to its messages. Our bodies are amazing and given half a chance, have the most incredible innate ability to heal and repair.

I used to get really disheartened whenever I felt a niggle in my body, but now I feel empowered. The Universe has said to me, ‘You are ready to go deeper, you are ready for another lesson and to peel back another layer’. This is the perspective I choose to view it from, and it’s made a big difference to my mindset.

(And remember beautiful, when it comes to your perspective, you always have a choice.)

My current health lesson — the leaky gut — has been eye-opening for another reason too. It’s important for all the future mamas out there to know that this stuff is super important because whatever the state your gut is in, you will pass that right onto your bub. So it’s essential to heal your digestive tract before you start thinking about conceiving. My naturopath thinks I’ve got another 1-2 years before I can even think about it. At first, this startled me but to be honest I would rather clean up my guts now than have a child with gut issues for the rest of their life — I’ve had ‘em for decades, and I know how much they suck!

And by the way, don’t think the fellas get off without a mention here. Their gut health matters too. They need to make sure their guts are moving like a well (coconut) oiled machine. So if you are thinking about making a baby, it’s a good idea for you and your lover to work with an experienced naturopath for at least 6 months before you start getting busy in the bedroom. Let’s get you both feeling fabulously healthy so that you can create a vital, bouncing bub!

So tell me gorgeous, are there things you have been ignoring for a while that need your love and attention? Do you need to go inward and listen to your body’s needs? Do you need to do some research to empower yourself? Or book in with a naturopath or holistic GP? Whatever it is, share with me in the comments below. Tell me your next steps to feeling fabulously healthy and bursting with love — I can’t wait to hear them.

As always beautiful, thank you so much for being here and showing up for you. Your dedication to being the best version of yourself inspires me beyond measure. Everything I write and do is for you!

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  1. Loved this post honey, and your willingness to always see the opportunity… xo

  2. That is so beautiful Melissa! I feel like so often we get one of those “niggles” from our body & the universe, and we just don’t want to feel it. This post is such a great reminder to step into our higher selves and take the time to feel what we need to feel, to listen to our bodies- even when it stings a little, and just recieve the guidance we’re being given with grace. Love it!

  3. Beautifully written and a great reminder for anyone wanting to someday have a baby. Those tell- tale signs are signals are messages that need decoding! Getting your body baby-ready and preparing for pregnancy and birth is one of the areas I focus on in my health coaching sessions with clients following on from my Growing Healthy Babies Naturally workshops I ran a couple years back.

    • Melissa says:

      Exactly Soulla.

      Anyone wanting to learn more please check out Soulla’s work here. Soulla is supreme and one of the best I know.

      xx

  4. Paula says:

    Melissa I think you are just wonderful. I was lucky enough to meet you in Tasmania and you are such an inspiration to me, it’s taken me so long to ‘ get’ what positive and shining lights like you are trying to pass on. I’m 41 now and am well and truly on the path and have never felt so happy or full of light and love ever before and know that now I’m like this the rest of my days are going to be the same. Of course there are ups and downs in life but everything has changed since I looked deeply into myself and realised for the world around me to look different and to see the beauty it was me that needed to change and develop not anyone around me, just me. I love your site and books and beautiful words xxxxxPaula

    • Melissa says:

      Thank you so much Paula. I am so glad you have this perspective, it’s so much nicer isn’t it!

      Well done darling and keep going. The world needs you to shine your light so very bright.

      xx

  5. Joy says:

    So brave and encouraging. I’m about to embark on a candida cleanse myself and have been postponing. It will not be comfortable. We are in this together!!

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Joy,

      Try changing that around to this statement, this is going to be so awesome. Becuase if you think it’s going to be uncomfortable it will be. Remember your thoughts are super powerful. I choose to have fun with it and you can too 😉 Let’s do it beautiful.

      xx

  6. Naomi Arnold says:

    Oh Mel, love the use of “Don’t shoot the messenger” in this context. Going to remember that one! And all the best with your leaky gut, honey, not much fun at all. x

  7. Linda Caines says:

    Love you Melissa! You always get it so spot on with your posts!
    I feel like I am on a constant roller coaster with my health and am always trying to find ways to heal my body. I am starting to realise that some health issues I am now experiencing may have been caused by the way I have treated my body in the past, a bit hard to come to terms with I have to admit!
    On a more positive note I have
    recently started doing yoga to help with back pain and am finding it more enjoyable than I expected to!

    • Melissa says:

      Brilliant Linda, I LOVE yoga so much.

      Please don’t be hard on yourself regarding your past choices, it is what is it and has lead you to the beautiful place you are at right now. It’s all a journey my darling.

      xx

    • Linda Caines says:

      Thank you Melissa, you are truly an inspiration. Wishing you the best with your current healing journey ♡

    • Linda Caines says:

      Hi again Melissa!
      I am thinking of purchasing your 12 Steps to Wellness eBook.
      I am in my 40’s and feel more unhealthy and confused than ever.
      I don’t seem to know what to eat or do to feel better.
      There seems to be so much conflicting information these days so hoping your ebook will helpt back the right t
      Mu

    • Linda Caines says:

      Oops sorry bit of a computer blip! Last post meant to end with ‘hoping your ebook will help me get back on track.
      Much love x’

  8. I am in the same boat. I’ve been working on gut health for years but never had it fully fixed. I found out recently I’ve got a couple bacterial infections and a few other issues that are contributing so I’m working with a functional medicine doc to get it all sorted before we have babies.

    But I’m also focusing on trusting that I don’t have to be perfect, all I can do is my best. Remembering that all of us come here to grow and expand through the contrast and it’s not possible or even desire able to make my baby’s life perfect. Which is good-because I’m tired of trying to be perfect and fix everything 😉

    Thank you for sharing this, it’s nice to know I’m not alone in this.

    Kirstin

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Kirstin,

      Let go of the word ‘perfect’ and instead just do your best. What is perfect anyways? We all have a different idea of perfect and best to not use it to measure ourselves. All we can ever do is our best 😉

      xx

  9. Melissa,
    thanks so much for this message, I had anorexia a long time, and 4 years ago after the birth of my child, I start again with restrictions, and I get obssessed with my white tongue, symptom of something not right inside…

    I read a lot but sometimes I get confused as for me the problems is more from lack than too much….

    I must admit I get pregnant before knowing everything, my daughter is well but she starts to have also a white tongue during a strong flue, and I get obessed because she eats good!!!

    But I feel that I also have to be gentle, that the more I get stressed and anxious the more I feel more guilty!!!

    I just really hope I can heal myself and really love myself enough to authorize me to balance more my diet not only fruit, veggies and some nuts, or raw cacao!! a whole process and a journey yes much much more deeper

    I admire you for the responsability for your child to come, I wish I would have be more aware that I can transmit!!

    thanks a lot
    Caroline

    • Melissa says:

      Hi Caroline,

      It’s never too late darling. You can start to feel fabulously healthy right now! All you have to do is shift your mind from fear to love. Give that a go and let me know how you feel.

      Also have you done my program Get Your Glow On? I think you would really benefit from it sweetie.

      xx

      • caroline moye says:

        Melissa,
        Thanks so much
        I just see the free videos and enjoy them a lot, I really see the mean girl in me by being obsessed.
        I have a question when do you know you are acting from being healthy or like more othorexix, as a former anorexie, I can see something in myself. For example I know you advocate quiting sugar, so I will ok I will quit fruits, honey, but I have been all my life in restrictions, that sometimes I feel i do not listen inside and because you or gabrielle bernstein do something I will do it. sorry I do not want to harm, but just find the courage and be so honnest with you. Because then I will be radical so maybe i have to stop following her, because I do not know if i need to be so radical!
        But i love you much
        Caro x

      • Melissa says:

        Hi Caroline,

        Thank you for your comment honey. I stopped eating sugar because I didn’t like the way it made me feel. So every time it’s put in front of me now I ask myself if I really want this. I feel if you connect with how it makes you feel it will be much easier to stay on your health path.

        Does that help honey?

      • caroline moye says:

        Yes it helps so much , yes it helps thanks so much Melissa

  10. Boshka says:

    Thank you for another beautiful post Melissa. I’ve always believed that pain and disease were only symptoms of something else going in my body. It was through Louise Hay that I discovered were the real problems came from. And this is how I realised that shoulder and back injuries I had were related to my attitude of perceiving life as burden and being scared of lack of financial support. Lately, I suddenly got a toothache and before I went to see the dentist to confirm the infection ( which wasn’t a result of my negligence) I knew it was down to my “chewing on making a decision and feeling stuck.” So even though I did see the specialist in every case I worked on “healing” the issues that actually caused the symptoms. I’m still a work in progress. Always will be. Your meditations and Louise’s affirmations are of great help to deal with the root of the problem and I trust the universe to send me to right person to help me with the symptoms. Always believing that at the end of the day ” All is well”.

    • Melissa says:

      Perfectly said Boshka. You are a great example of taking responsibility for yourself. WELL DONE! I am so proud of you honey. Keep up the great work.

      xx

  11. Divine says:

    Melissa,
    I think it’s extraordinary you’ve been brave enough to share this story. It must be a really difficult period for you but you are truly walking the walk & ‘owning’ this health issue.
    You really are a living inspiration.
    Best of luck to you & your husband conceiving when the time is right for you both.
    X

  12. Lauren says:

    Good morning Melissa, I am so glad this found its way into my inbox this morning. I am currently taking measures to heal my leaky gut and the auto immune issues I have developed as a result. This has been a huge issue in my life for years, and I have spoken to you about them previously both here and in person.

    I have started working with a functional medicine trained naturopath and acupuncturist to assist in my healing. I am really struggling, two steps forward, one step back. I have thrown myself into healing, however it is so hard at times. I am 23 years old – I want to be out with my friends, be relaxed not anxious that healthy foods will make me blow up like a balloon!! I am heavier than I would like to be, and that brings with it added anxiety, and I don’t actually like eating meat, which is making the Paleo protocol I am on very difficult (no sugar, nightshade, grains, dairy, fruit, anything fermented at all).

    I am trying to fill my body with loving thoughts, drink my bone broth, eat slow cooked nourishing meals and take my supplements to help rid my body of the horrible things inhabiting my gut right now, but it is so hard!!!! I am trying to be positive and say to myself I love bone broth! I love these casseroles and soups and poached eggs!! But really I just want fruit, nuts and salad.

    I hope this is not a “forever” thing, because it’s really tough, and I have to miss out on sooooo much.

    • Melissa says:

      Hi angel,

      You could try repeating this affirmation, I love and accept you Lauren exactly the way you are. Repeat that 50 times in the morning whilst looking in the bathroom mirror and 50 times at night whilst looking in the mirror. Try this for 3 weeks and let me know how you go.

      Accepting is key for you honey and is going to be the first place you need to start. Have you done Get Your Glow On darling? I think you would get a lot out of it.

      xx

  13. Monique Took says:

    Melissa I cannot begin to tell you how much I needed this today. I have been suffering with Leaky Gut for the past year and have been doing everything I can to heal it – my naturopath is amazed at how concious and focused I am towards healing my gut. But every now and then I get a mass break out on my face which is my body’s unique way of telling me that my guts not happy and I need to be doing something more or change something. I was so disheartened looking into the mirror this morning, blaming my body for not healing when I have been so good trying healing it, and then your email arrived in my inbox. It was exactly what I needed. I needed that reminder that my body works with me and the universe is telling me another lesson to help me heal it. Thank you so much beautiful Melissa for this empowering message.

    • Melissa says:

      You’re so welcome Monique.

      Start to think of break out’s as your body detoxing. It’s great that it’s all coming out, that’s a good sign (better out than in). Try not to get angry at yourself or your body and instead see it as healing and think, brilliant my body is getting rid or more stuff, this is great.

      Try reprogramming your thoughts in that way my darling and let me know how you go.

      x

  14. Pippa says:

    Absolutely gorgeous read this morning that you Melissa. I have started to listen to my body more as the years have gone on. At the minute I am aches and pains all over and move sometimes like a very old woman! My back and hips are so sore and I know its bad habits and practices that I am trying to now correct with better food and more movement with love.

    Your words resonated with me so much as I have found whenever I have a very large amount of stress or upset I get ill. I used to have migraines when I was bullied at school and had them a couple of times in one job when my boss was a bit of a bully too. In my last job I got eczema around my eyes – which I have never had sinus problems and a very bad cough / infection with my asthma playing up over the past year when I was under more stress and unhappiness than normal. I have been forced to take some time out and focus on me over the last few weeks and a lot of things have cleared up – now its just the aches and pains. I really believe my body is trying to tell me how important it is and how important I am to be able to live my truth and be happy – it gives me little reminders now and then to not take it for granted and treat it and myself with love every step of the way 🙂

    Thank you for such gorgeous, heartfelt words. Enjoy your day xoxo

    • Melissa says:

      You’re so welcome beautiful.

      It’s so good that you can see your niggles were all related to your emotions. It’s very powerful stuff!

      It’s time to let that all go now and step into your true power. Come on beauty 😉 You can do it!

      xx

      • Pippa says:

        I am definitely trying 🙂 Hopefully one of the jobs I am prepping for comes off and helps me along the way along with the learning and developing I am doing. Every day is an opportunity to take a step, even a tiny one further forward 🙂 Thank you for all your love, support and wisdom xoxo

  15. I related to this so much, Melissa! I’ve been in recovery from an eating disorder for several years now, and even though I was lucky enough to not have a major crisis like a heart attack from electrolyte imbalances, I still struggle with a few repercussions. Oddly, I have a lot of people in my life who make fun of me for my green juice/green smoothies, affinity for wheatgrass, and desire to cut processed sugar out of my life, but I know that when I treat my body well, it treats me well in return. You can’t expect to be happy and chase your dreams without your body on board! And if you’re struggling with a health issue at least working with some to do what you can to care for yourself is so important! Loving the Goddess Group On Demand. So worth every penny!

    • Melissa says:

      Absolutely Alex!

      Try not to let what other people think worry you, I know easier said than done but when you are 100% grounded in self-love you don’t care, you simply let it wash over you like a wash. Give that a try my love.

      P.S. So glad you are loving The Goddess Group On Demand, I LOVE recording them for you 😉

      xx

  16. Kate says:

    Hi Mel! Great article. I can totally relate to what you’re going through. My past partying ways are still causing me grief today – but I too have realized it’s a lesson in self care. Self love. Remaining present and conscious when making decisions. This path has led me to begin studying kinesiology – and wow what a difference it makes! Within a few sessions, candida – which I’ve been struggling with for years – has finally stopped reoccurring. Plus I’ve gained a whole lot more energy & my zest for life has returned. Energy work is absolutely amazing. If anyone suffers from allergies, candida, fatigue and leaky gut symptons, I now always recommend them to see a properly trained kinesiologist! It has completely changed my life. The best thing about the practice is that it focuses on not only your life energy (chi), but it helps release emotions and stagnant misbeliefs. It’s absolutely incredible. Wishing you all the best on this journey. It sure is an eye opener to where more love is needed, that’s for sure!
    Much love to you,
    Kate x

    • Melissa says:

      Perfectly said Kate! You’re right it sure is a pathway to more love, that’s for sure 😉

      I LOVE kinesiology and think it’s super powerful. I highly recommend it also.

      xx

  17. Holly says:

    Dearest Melissa,
    Another great post darling and THANK YOU for speaking about this. I too know this problem intimately and have been diligently working to fix my leaky gut, candida, e-coli, low good gut flora for about 6 months now. What a journey and thanks to working at a wonderful Health retreat here in Thailand I’ve had the opportunity to speak with Dr Jack Kruse and other AH-maze natural docs on this. I see almost every second person come to our retreat with candida & gut issues! I’d LOVE to hear what you’re naturopath has prescribed for you and exchange notes? Hx

    • Melissa says:

      Hi Holly,

      That’s amazing you have access to all these awesome peeps, soak it up!. You’re right almost every second person has gut issues which is concerning.

      I prefer not to disclose my protocol as everyone is different, but I will tell you there is loads of bone broth and organic veggies.

      Here’s to healing our guts 😉

      xx

  18. Misslea says:

    You can do everything 1000% right to get fit & healthy for your baby, and give your child a fighting chance, but unfortunately bad things can still happen whether you’ve got a leaky gut or not. Waiting six months is no guarnatee for a perfectly healthy baby.

    • Melissa says:

      Exactly right Misslea, everyone is different which is why it’s super important to see a great naturopath or holistic GP to help you work out what’s right for you and your partner 😉

      xx

    • Marina says:

      When I really wanted a baby nothing could stop me. Definitely not a silly gut issues. Our bodies are amazing, they are not perfect but they can give their best to make perfectly healthy babies. Waiting for one day when everything is just right seems to me not a great advice. It may never happen. Live, love, give life NOW.

  19. Kate says:

    Thanks for this article! It is exactly where I am at right now. Lots of people say I am the healthiest person they know but I have horrible eczema on my face. How did you determine for sure that it was leaky gut/candida rather than an allergy or something else?

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Kate,

      I went to my holistic GP and naturopath and got loads of test’s done. I would highly recommend you doing that otherwise you are playing the guessing game. It’s great to know what’s actually going on inside you, and they can help you work that out.

      Keep me updated with your progress.

      xx

  20. Maxine says:

    Hi Melissa and the MA team!

    I really enjoyed this article and have been beginning my own process of ‘detoxing’ recently (though be it slowly…) following your advise and wisdom.
    In particular your comment “food is also heavily linked to our emotions” triggered my attention. I’ve stopped taking the pill about 6 months ago and recently realised that my hormones have been all-over-the-place since then. At first I wasn’t too aware of it, but it’s definitely turning me ‘crazy’ and putting strain on my relationships. Do you have any suggestions for ways I could naturally help balance myself & my hormones through my diet? (or other methods)
    Love what you do!
    Maxine
    x

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Maxine,

      Thanks for your comment and question. I would 100% go and see a naturopath and or a holistic GP asap to get your hormones sorted asap.

      There is so much I could suggest, but you need to know what’s going on for you first.

      Keep me posted with your progress.

      xx

  21. Alisha says:

    ARHHH I really need to read this right now, food is just a massive thing, the past month I have been clean eating and was starting to feel great. Then I thought I might try lite n easy for a week just to see if my weight would shift, and most the food has been yummy but wow I feel mental im back to square one and I no its from having the no no foods again…. living and learning xx

  22. Georgia says:

    Hey Mel, this article absolutely resonates with me for a couple of reasons.
    1) because when you are a super health conscious person, people are genuinely surprised that you may indeed have your own health issues or in fact need to cleanse or detox. I am currently dealing with a little eczema that keeps clearing then returning and boy can it be frustrating at times. which brings me to 2) the mindset; flipping the perspective and seeing that it is another beautiful opportunity to look within – some more – to grow and learn. Such a beautiful reminder. Thank you.

    Sending you love + light for your healing journey.
    G x

  23. Cayla says:

    Thanks Melissa,

    I love you for doing these posts and am grateful for them and for you <3 P.S. you look absolutely stunning in the photo for this post.
    In my personal experience, I have noticed that when I choose to have an attitude of gratitude and abundance over feelings of things 'never being enough' I choose healthier foods, healthier thoughts and healthier beliefs. I totally agree with you when you say that "food is heavily linked to our emotions"
    Daily practise of compassion, self love and practising gratitude helps me with my perfectionistic nature and anxiety which sometimes surrounds by health choices.
    And health is definitely a Journey.. You've got that right haha

    Love and Light to you xxx <3

    • Tavana says:

      Hi Melissa,
      I’m going through the same thing of dealing with a leaky gut & candida. Your article was just what I needed to hear this morning. You are such an inspiration!
      Thank you for all your encouraging words & advice.
      P.s So looking forward to your next Goddess group meet up. Namaste Tavana

      • Melissa says:

        You’re so welcome darling and I can’t wait to see you at The Goddess Group.

        xx

  24. Alana says:

    I love your perspective shifts, Melissa! What an enormous difference that makes to suffering when you have health concerns. XO

  25. Jen says:

    lovely post Melissa. I know you drink bone broth and it is purported to be great in assisting leaky gut problems. Has it assisted you?

    • Melissa says:

      Sure has. I have it every single day. It’s so good for healing your gut.

      Have you tried it?

      • Jen says:

        Yes Melissa. I don’t have leaky gut but I drink it anyway for a burst of good energy and wellbeing.

  26. Shannon says:

    Thanks Melissa, I found this read really interesting and it feels like a big sign for me…my husband and I were planning to start trying for baby in February 2016 and although we live pretty healthy lifestyles there are issues which need addressing before we start, I get hives too it’s awful mainly when it’s cold and I get hot really quickly – exercising is a big one, I’ve seen several naturopaths over the years but I really need to stick to their advise and supplements. Are your hives related to leaky gut? Thank you so much again it’s so good to know that my health today could affect my future Bub. X

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Shannon,

      I have never had hives until now, and yes they are related to my leaky gut. I am not saying that that is the case for you but it is for me. I would get tested with your naturopath and find out.

      Good luck and keep me posted.

      xx

  27. Rhiannon says:

    So crazy, I have struggled with acne for the most part of my life- and I had previously went on the pill and antibiotics to try and get rid of them, but each time they went away for quite a while and they always returned. After turning to the health and wellness path I knew acne was a reflection of whats going on inside my body and have since found out after seeing a naturopath that I have leaky gut and candida. Just having that conversation with my naturopath is super powerful to understanding my body better and how it works. I personally find it difficult at times, with a sweet tooth and trying to stay away from fruits and dates 😉 But in the end, I like to tell myself that I deserve to feel wonderful by nourishing my body!

    • Melissa says:

      Absolutely Rhiannon, you deserve to feel fabulously healthy every single day, it’s your birth right! Do whatever it takes so you can feel that.

      xx

  28. Simone says:

    Thank you so much for this post Melissa!
    Just last night I was sobbing on my poor boyfriend’s shoulder about how frustrated I am with my skin breaking out and somehow developing lines (I’m 24 so it’s devastating!) and the PCOS as well.
    I’ll be keeping “don’t shoot the messenger” as my mantra for today xx

  29. kirsty says:

    Melissa,
    I have been pondering this gut and hormone related issues, emotions, etc.. and doing my detox with the lovely breakouts in my late 30’s! I just love your re-framing of these challenges and your honesty. I have 2 smallish children (who I now give probiotics to) and so wish I had been aware of this stuff when I was pregnant and before, it all makes sense!
    I am moving forward seeing it as a nourishing journey… good luck!

  30. Natalie Smith says:

    Absolutely true!

    I am currently 37 weeks pregnant and have leaky gut and candida 🙁 Very upset I wasn’t able to heal it properly before becoming pregnant so my beautiful daughter has the very bestest start to her gut health life. BUT I have been doing as much as possible since finding out I am expecting, and I plan to continue doing everything in my power to help her beautiful gut bacteria flourish. Bone broth galore!! xxxxxx

    • Melissa says:

      Here’s to loads of bone broth 😉

      As long as you are taking inspired action now honey you are doing great. It’s never too late and you are on the path now so well done.

      Keep up the good work.

      xx

  31. Kylie says:

    I totally hear you! I have the same health issues. It’s an ongoing process! I have seen many naturopaths but have now bee trying Chinese Medicine and am considering an integrative GP.
    I live in melbourne but originally from Sydney.
    Which naturopath have you found success with in sydney? Would love to know.
    Xx

    • Melissa says:

      Hi Kylie,

      If you click the link above in my article I have linked to my naturopath Anthia from Ovvio Organics. She is the BOMB! I have been seeing her for years and love her.

      xx

  32. YES!

    I was running along swimmingly until recently and my health started going downhill. I eat only whole foods and am super healthy, so why was I getting sick? Working as a health coach I have been working through various dietary changes that might help. As I am also wanting to work on my Leaky gut I went to an awesome integrative GP to get a lot of tests done. I was low in zinc and vitamin D3! I can tell you that taking zinc supplements has made a huge difference.

    Its worth going and getting some tests done, as sometimes even the person who is eating well can find that healthy foods can disagree with your body. When you can uncover an unknown issue that can be improved naturally its awesome.

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Luanne,

      I totally agree getting tests done is imperative otherwise you are playing the guessing game.

      Thanks for your awesome insights.

      xx

  33. Briana says:

    Awesome message!
    As someone who struggles with terrible acne (which I’ve since linked to gut health issues) it’s very disheartening to put such an effort into my health and yet have the symptoms of a health issue displayed all over my face (literally.)
    It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one and that there is a brighter way to look at it.

    My acne has held me back from putting myself out to the public for so long for fear of being judged. Thankyou for shedding a new light onto it.

    Briana xx

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Briana,

      Please don’t let this hold you back. Remember you are beautiful, perfect and whole just as you are and the world needs you to shine your light so bright. I know easier said than done but remind yourself just how truly beautiful you are.

      I believe in you.

      xx

  34. Georgia says:

    Hi Melissa,

    I just wanted to say how much you inspire me to keep living my healthy life! I have been on a similar health journey as you for quite a while – doing my best to heal my leaky gut and candida, but am nowhere near where I’d like to be. Just wondering what approach you’ve taken (treatment wise)? Is it mostly through food therapy, or are you taking herbal formulas as well?

    I understand if you don’t want to get into the nitty gritty, but thought I would ask just in case!

    Thank you,

    G x

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Georgia,

      Thanks for your comments and questions honey.

      Firstly, I want to remind you that where you are right now is perfect and there is actually nowhere else you need to be. Come to peace with that darling and everything will start to flow a lot more effortlessly.

      Treatment wise I have been taking herbs, healing with food and also doing a lot of self-love work which I believe is really important.

      I hope that helps darling.

      xx

  35. Jasmine says:

    This is just what I needed to read toady! I have been suffering from Complex Regional Pain Syndrome in my foot and leg for over a year now and with no cure or reason for coming on, I have been left frustrated, angry and upset for most of the time. Whilst it has gotten better, I have my bad days and weeks were I blame my body and ask why me? I know deep down that it’s a blessing in disguise and my body trying to tell me to slow down and tune in.
    Thank you again Melissa, this has really lifted my spirits today! xx

  36. Jannina says:

    Hey Melissa,

    Thank you for your post, it was of great timing and hit the mark with me! It takes two to tango so to speak, so your point regarding how our partners need to take action too is very important and one I am grateful that you have highlighted. it can be difficult getting your partner to see a holistic GP or natural therapist. I’m wondering do you have any ideas for encouraging guys to start their wellness path also?

    Thank you again!!

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Jannina,

      Thanks for your awesome question. I have actually written about this here. The best way to inspire anyone is by leading by example.

      Have a read of that post and let me know your thoughts.

      xx

  37. Brooke says:

    Hi Melissa,

    In my first ever blog post I wrote how good health and wellness is a journey and not a destination, so this post really resonated with me so much.

    I am curious about your naturopath and integrative GP. I recently visited a naturopath in Melbourne to be proactive, rather than because there was any particular concern. My naturopath put me on a liquid supplement and probiotic and asked me to get Vitamin D level results from my doctor but not much else. Did your naturopath requested lots of different tests? Or should I proactively see an integrative GP?

    Thanks so much 🙂

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Brooke,

      My naturopath and holistic GP work together (it’s brilliant), so they worked out which test’s I needed and we went from there.

      Could you get your’s to do that too?

  38. Cindra says:

    This is perfect.

    As holistic health spokespeople I think it is so important to be forthcoming with our imperfections…I am a health coach and I always ensure that my clients know that I get sick too sometimes! We are just human after all.

    Love your perspective on your recent diagnosis…I am in a similar position, and at first it’s like WHY ME! But it does allow you to go deeper and even look at your life and what is not serving you anymore.

    Thankyou for your lovely words and constant inspiration.

    Cindra x

  39. Katie says:

    This post is great Melissa, I have struggled over the last few years with tummy issues as well as back pain, and what I thought was eczema on my face… my skin problems lasted almost a year, & I used to look in the mirror cursing my body and the universe for doing this to me. With my sore lower back, I was always focusing on the negative and wondering why I had back problems at only 30 years of age.
    Last year I started to become more open to the idea that my body might actually be trying to tell me something, which led me to realise it was all coming from within. I figured out that my skin problems were actually perioral dermatitis triggered by alcohol (red wine) and bad foods, and haven’t had any problems since. And thanks to an amazing osteopath I started yoga for my back pain which has now become one of the most beautiful things in my life. It’s like my body was screaming at me and I just had to stop and listen! Looking within has so many benefits and for me was the beginning of connecting with my self and realising the power of my body & mind xx

  40. Isabel says:

    Hi sweety,

    Detoxing makes me think about one of my guilty pleasures: nailpolish… My skincare routine is pretty clean, organic and minimal and I almost use no make up (only mineral), but I have a hard time giving up nail polish, especially on my toes. I only use 5 free or organic brands, but I still think they smell pretty nasty and therefore toxic? I also tried water based brands, but they don’t last well. Should I embrace healthy and strong bare nails? Do you still use it?

    Otherwise, I never thought I have gut problems, but how do I know? Acne? Does it mostly show on the skin?

    Lots of love, Isabel

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Isabel,

      Thanks for your great questions.

      Regarding the nail polish, I haven’t used it in 4 years. I embrace strong healthy nails and love it. I haven’t found any toxic free ones so I stay away from it.

      And regarding gut issues, yes acne is a sign that something is going on inside you so I would go see a great holistic GP and naturopath that can guide you on that.

      Keep me posted with your progress.

      xx

  41. eleni says:

    I am currently struggling with vaginal candida and haemorrhoids and I feel like the these two are connected. Melissa do you have any advice on these two? the candida comes and goes and I have tried medicine and it came back again. I just visited and Ayurvedic doctor… hope he will help!

    • Melissa says:

      Hi Eleni,

      I would 100% go and see a great holistic GP and naturopath, they will get you to do some test’s and go from there. That’s the best place to start honey.

      Good luck.

      xx

  42. Hi Melissa
    This is a fabulous article and one I was needing to read. I really love your mindset and choice of perspective! It’s one I’ve been leaning towards lately – now time to fully embrace that body love 🙂
    I’d just realised lately how much of a journey health and wellness really is, after I’d gotten myself lost in a huge amount of anxiety – partly related to “how can I teach/promote/encourage wellness when I’m not fully well myself?” Now I see that was me being too hard on ME – it isn’t a destination where I’ll be perfect – and it’s okay that I’m still learning about my own message while I share it – that really releases me from feeling like some kind of fraud – yikes!
    Much love,
    Maxine

  43. Arna says:

    Hi Mel,
    Reading this post came at just the right time! I’m about to start really trying to get to the route cause of my health issues. I’ve also had digestive issues for as long as I can remember and nothing has fixed it. Do you mind me asking who you saw to get diagnosed with IBS? I’m trying to figure out the best route to take as I don’t want to jump from specialist to specialist.
    Thanks for always inspiring me, I find your words really resonate with me and I can relate to a lot of the things you say. x

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Arna,

      Thanks for your comment. I have linked the two people I see in the article above.

      xx

  44. Stefanie Jung says:

    I can totally relate to this! Whenever I feel tired or like I’m getting sick, I immediately crave comfort food instead of taking the opportunity to tune in to my body and realise that now, more than ever, I need to listen to it’s needs and nurture it. This post came at the exactly right time for me, thank you Melissa! I also just bought your meditation series & will be giving the first one a go today 🙂

  45. Lucy says:

    Thank you for this post Melissa, and for shining your beautiful light and wisdom out into the world! I have also recently come off the pill (after being on it for 7 years) and my hormones are completely out of whack – I get recurring acne on my chin and have severe PMS. I realise now it is time to go and see someone to help to get me back on track but I am confused as to where to start. As a starting point would you recommend I go to a Naturopath or a holistic GP first to get tests done? I am so grateful for your help xo

    • Melissa says:

      Hello beautiful Lucy,

      I would see a naturopath first then get her to recommend a holistic GP. That’s a great place to start.

      Good luck darling and remember it’s a journey.

      Keep me updated with your progress.

      xx

  46. Céline says:

    Hi beautiful Mélissa, thank you for this post… I am a naturopathe and medicine student. I have been obsessed about my health and suffering from as a consequence from this idea of a perfect healthy life ex: not being able to enjoy a glass of wine or a croissant when I really want one… Also this brings me to the issue of letting go and bitting life when I want it … Why cant I just order a slice of delicious home made pizza and do I have to make my own gluten free avocado toast instead ? is it because I have decided that I want to eat gluten free ? or is it because I stop myself from living in the moment… I used to eat gluten and dairy in the past, not drink juices and remember being way happier in a way… When I read your post and in particular when you say “clean deaper etc”… i fell some obsession, maybe I can also read mine.. the one that takes over my day sometimes and doesnt allow me to live in the moment.. Not sure this makes sense but these were my thoughts. have a beautiuful day Melissa. Love from a french heart in the middle of Germany.

    • Melissa says:

      So many awesome points Celine.

      I believe it all comes back down to love over fear. If you are going to eat the pizza just eat it and eat it with so much love and no guilt. But if you are eating it out of fear don’t eat it. It’s important to come from love and not fear.

      It’s easy to get obsessed over health but you have to tune into your body and always do what feels right for you! And maybe that might be a glass of red. Only you truly know darling.

      I hope that makes sense?

      xx

  47. Fiona says:

    Hi Melissa,
    I know exactly what you’re talking about!! I’m going through the exact same thing right now!

    I have been a health nut for years, so recently when I learned I had parasites, it kind of threw me!! My mom said something similar to me “you’re the healthiest person I know, how do you have parasites?!”

    Thank you for pointing out, that it actually might be an opportunity, to take it deeper. You’re so right, I never thought of it that way. I guess I’ve been in complete shock, that I haven’t been able to see beyond it!

    So thank you Melissa! Yes, now I’m going to take it deeper. I guess getting such things, makes you better at helping and healing others too, when the time comes!

    Love the posts. Keep up the good work!

    Lots of love,

    Fiona

    • Melissa says:

      Exactly honey, we go through this stuff in order to rise up and help others. That’s what I believe anyways 😉

      Keep me posted with your journey honey. I am here for you.

      x

  48. Zoe says:

    I love this post… I went to my doctor in 2013 because I wanted to start trying to conceive and was told i had Hashimoto’s disease. It became my goal to put it into remission as soon as i could before conceiving and in just under a year i did it. We are now trying to conceive but I believe it will happen when it’s suppose to, just at the right time. Good luck with your gut lovely xx

  49. Kelly says:

    Love the message of positivity and opportunity for growth in this post! So many of my friends are pregnant at the moment and I myself have a new baby…I’m always banging on about the importance of gut health! Have shared your post on FB in the hopes that it may help my pregnant friends become healthier giving their babies the best start to life.
    Thank you!

  50. Ruth Amy says:

    Hi Melissa, Great talk!! I was wondering, what was the biggest help for you in treating chronic fatigue?? Thanks Ruth xx

    • Melissa says:

      Meditation honey. It’s been my number one.

      Have you tried it?

      • Ruth Amy says:

        Thanks for getting back to me!.. Yes I have tried it… I used to do it everyday and I LOVED it… I think a time has come for me to now get back into it… x

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