I want to be honest with you… my relationship with Nick has taken a back seat lately—and I’m not okay with that.
I was on a call with my spiritual mentor the other day, and he lovingly reminded me of something so simple, yet so powerful: Nick and I are the foundation of our home. If we don’t prioritize us, everything else starts to wobble.
Between two little kids, multiple businesses, and a home that still has trades in it every day… let’s just say date nights have been non-existent, and cuddling on the couch all Sunday? A distant dream.
So we sat down, got really honest, and assessed the season of life we’re in:
- We’re not in the season for romantic weekends away every month (we’d miss our babies too much).
- We’re not in the season for hours of slow, uninterrupted time together.
But that doesn’t mean we can’t stay connected.
Here’s what we’re doing instead—and it’s been a total game changer.
Every night, once the kids are asleep, we sit on the couch with some organic coconut oil and give each other a 5-minute foot rub. That’s it. Five minutes each.
Sounds simple, right? But here’s what happens:
- We soften.
- We drop into our hearts.
- The stress, worry, and overwhelm melt away.
- We reconnect as teammates, lovers, soulmates.
There’s actually science to back this up, too. Physical touch like massage and skin-to-skin contact activates the release of oxytocin—the “love hormone.” It lowers cortisol (your stress hormone), boosts feelings of connection and bonding, and even helps reduce inflammation and improve sleep.
And honestly, in the rush of daily life, we’d gone way too long without real, loving touch. So we decided to change that with two simple non-negotiables:
- A 5-minute foot rub for each other every night.
- Intentional physical touch every time we see each other during the day—a kiss, a cuddle, a hand on the lower back, a little tushie squeeze—something playful, loving, grounding.
It’s simple. It’s quick. It’s easy.
And it’s made a huge difference in how connected, supported, and loved we both feel.
So here’s your invitation… try it today, babe.
Send this to your partner. Commit to it together.
Before the TV goes on.
Before you pick up your phone.
Connect.
5 minutes. That’s all it takes.
Do it and thank me later
Enjoy your foot rub and tushie squeeze.
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