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Does this dialogue sound familiar?

‘Hey! How are you?’

‘Busy, as usual. Yourself?’

‘Yeah – really busy. Life’s just crazy, you know?’

‘Yep, crazy-busy.’

We live in a world where it’s not only cool to be busy, it’s glorified. It’s the first thing we say when we greet each other. You’re given a pat on the back when you pull a hefty 13-hour day, or if you’ve done an all-nighter, or if you’ve rushed around like a mad thing to meet a deadline. We wear our ‘busy-ness’ like a badge of honour and will proudly tell everyone in our lives how crazy and hectic things are.

For me, there’s nothing glamorous or sexy about ‘being busy’. In fact, it’s something I want to steer away from. I don’t want to be run off my feet, stressed out, and overwhelmed. Instead, I choose to move through my day with a sense of ease and grace. How much nicer does that sound?

While we’re busting through myths and misconceptions, let’s debunk another one: life isn’t about trying to find ‘balance’ either.

I think the idea of striving for balance is unrealistic… and kind of destructive. Besides, it doesn’t even exist — it’s just another thing us ladies use to compare and measure ourselves against each other. We even use it as a self-inflicted weapon to make ourselves feel guilty and unworthy. I spent way too much time at work this week, I’m such a bad mamma. I didn’t fit everything in today, I’m such a failure. (Can you believe the awful things our Mean Girl says to us sometimes?!)

The fact is there are times when my work requires more of me. Like when I’m bunkering down to write a book, or knee-deep in a speaking tour, or launching a new product like Get Your Glow On. There are also times when my family or friends need me more, and everything else gets put on the back burner so I can show up fully for them. I believe it’s all about being present and riding the waves of life. Sometimes one particular area will call for more energy or more love and it’s our job to be so aware and tuned in that we can recognise it and act accordingly.

Ready to take action?

If you want to ditch the overwhelm and avoid the busy-ness trap once and for all (and supercharge your productivity while you’re at it), try these 7 hot tips:

1. Start Using Your Digital Calendar

I used to love using a pretty hand-held calendar that I would carry around in my handbag everywhere I went. But not only was it chunky and extremely heavy, I found myself missing appointments and stuffing up times because the inside of my planner looked like my 2-year-old nephew had taken to the pages with a bunch of pens! We live in a world where things move and change all the time, and constantly crossing out and writing over things takes time and can look overwhelming (especially if you have writing like mine!). It’s so easy to move things around on your digital calendar. Plus you can sync it to your smartphone and computer, which makes booking things in super easy. You can also send calendar invites to other people so they don’t miss your meeting or catch up.

2. Make Sure You Schedule In Time For You

I know it sounds ridiculous that we have to actually schedule in downtime, but we do: if we don’t, it doesn’t happen! I personally make sure my yoga, meditation and afternoon self-love time are all added to my digital calendar, otherwise I know they’ll just fall by the wayside. Set yourself up for success by scheduling in your self-love time today. You can also make it a recurring task, which saves you time and makes sure these essential activities are always front-and-centre in your day. Need ideas for your self love time? Check out my FREE self love menu today.

3. Delegate

For many years, I really struggled with this. My business is my baby, so handing anything over to someone else scared the bejeebers out of me. But since I have learnt to delegate, I have really been able to focus my attention on what I love most, which is writing, speaking, teaching, sharing and creating. As a result, my business has grown exponentially.

To make this shift for yourself, work out what you love doing in your business. If you love writing and creating content, and don’t necessarily love sending invoices, bookkeeping and assigning tags in Infusionsoft (also lovingly known at MA HQ as Confusionsoft), then hire someone else to do it. You need to stay in your zone of genius and stop wasting your precious time doing things you don’t enjoy. Life’s too short to do anything that doesn’t light you up.

4. Ask For Help

There’s a common misconception that we have to do it all alone and that if we don’t, we’re a failure. This is BS. When you really let go of that belief — and simply ask for help when you need it — you can avoid burn-out and stop overwhelm in its tracks. Give it a go.

5. Brain Dump

In this post I talk about Things, which is one of my favourite productivity tools. Every morning I do a brain dump into the app, which helps stop my brain swirling into overwhelm and falling into that unproductive busy-ness trap.

6. Meditation

Want to supercharge your productivity? Meditate! But let me guess: you’re too busy and don’t have time, right? Wrong. We all have the same amount of hours in the day — it’s about prioritising yourself, scheduling it in your digital calendar, then showing up every single day. As Tom Cronin says, we have 72 units of 20 minutes per day. All you need to do is allocate two of those and you still have 70 units left!

Instead of rigidly striving for ‘balance’, tune into the natural ebbs and flows of life.

7. Eat Your Frog First

Once you get all of your tasks out of your head and into your app (or onto paper), you need to start organising them. Divide your brain dump into four categories:

  • Things you don’t want to do, and actually don’t need to do.
  • Things you don’t want to do, but actually do need to do (the frogs).
  • Things you want to do and actually do need to do.
  • Things you want to do, but actually don’t need to do.

Once you’ve got your list organised, it’s time to prioritise the sections. The most important place to start? The ‘frogs’. These are the things you don’t like doing, but that actually really need to be done. They’re the ones you aren’t motivated to do, and that send you spiralling into procrastination. In fact, they can hang over your head all day and fill you with guilt… yet you still can’t bring yourself to actually get ‘em done.

So how can we finish our frogs?

Frogs need structure around them to ensure that they actually get finished. You can create the motivation you need to make them happen by either transforming them into something desirable (say, turning your weekly vacuuming session into a lounge room dance-jam) or by linking the act of frog-finishing to another, stronger habit.

In his famous book Eat That Frog, Brian Tracy suggests that the best habit to get into is eating your frogs first thing in the morning, which is exactly how I like to structure my to-do list. Not only does it mean you get the icky stuff over with first (leaving you free to do the things you enjoy without a cloud of guilt hanging over your head) but it’s also incredibly rewarding. Within the first hour or so of my work day, I already feel like I’ve made great headway, and that surge of momentum helps me glide through the rest of my day with ease. (Like Mark Twain once said, “If you have to eat a live frog, it does not pay to sit and look at it for a very long time!”)

Bonus Tip: Ban The ‘B’ Word

My team and I have eliminated the word ‘busy’ from our vocabulary. It helps, a lot! Try it if you like. And next time someone asks you how you are, try not responding with, ‘Oh, I am so busy’. Instead, connect with how you’re feeling and go from there.

Now I’d love to hear from you, beautiful. Tell me, are you ready to ditch the busy-ness badge of honour? And do you have a favourite tip for supercharging your productivity and sailing through your to-do list with ease and grace? I’d love to hear your insights.

Thanks so much for being here, and for sharing from your heart. I love the bejeebers out of you!

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  1. Mia says:

    Melissa-
    I don’t know how you do it, but you always manage to speak directly to what I’m going through at the moment. At university I’m so guilty of letting myself get overwhelmed with schoolwork, extracurriculars, and career planning that I let myself ignore my own health and my relationships. You’re so right about meditation- I have loved setting aside twenty minutes each day to meditate with one of your recordings, and I’m feeling so much more at peace because of it. And you’re spot on about digital calendars!! I schedule everything- classes, meals, exercise, meditation, time for friends etc. It really takes away so much stress knowing what I need to be doing and when.
    Love always!! xoxo

    • Melissa says:

      It sure does Mia. It’s crazy that we have to schedule everything in but if we don’t it won’t happen.

      Keep going my darling.

      xx

  2. Carly says:

    Melissa you are a breath of fresh air – forever grateful for the day I stumbled across your blog.

    You’re insight and authenticity is truly powerful.

    I could not agree more.

    I actually banned the ‘b’ and the ‘s’ word some time ago after being surround by ‘busy’ people and hell freakin yeah it works!

    My life now flows with ease and grace.

    Keep doing your thing girl and lets all get un-busy together!

    Biggest love to you and the MA team.

    xx

  3. Nicole Joy says:

    Ah Mel, love getting these weekly doses of sparkle in my inbox. Love your work honey!
    My no#1 tip – is organising tomorrow’s work today, then you don’t need to go to bed with a cloud of (insert ugly word here) hanging over your head while trying to go to sleep! xx

    • Melissa says:

      Hi darling,

      That is such a great idea! I do the same thing. Before I go to bed I make sure I have my day planned out and know what needs to be done and where I need to be. It saves waking up and running around like a lost little puppy.

      Big love to you beautiful.

      xx

  4. Sacha Marie says:

    Love this post! One of my Core Desired Feelings is Flow so every time I get into the “Busys”, I repeat the mantra “I am in my Flow.” It really helps to slow the inner-chaos and get me to my happy place :o)

    • Melissa says:

      I love it Sacha!

      I use the words ease and grace and it really helps me when I am feeling overwhelmed.

      xx

  5. Lauren says:

    Melissa,

    Thank you so much for always putting an insane amount of love into your posts. I read each one with admiration of the way you live your life.

    A while back I completed one of your meditations (where I visited the younger me) it left me sobbing and made me realise how much my ‘mean girl’ was messing with me. Whilst I still have regular battles with her I’m now aware of her and am able to put her in her place when needed!

    This ‘b word’ post is wonderful and I’m officially putting a ban on the word.. it can go and hang out with my mean girl!

    Thank you again Melissa, you’ve really made a difference in my life.

    With love x

    • Melissa says:

      Thank you so much Lauren.

      I believe awareness is key and now that you have that you can only continue to catch her and shine. You are awesome honey. Keep going!

      xx

  6. Divine timing as always!

    So looking forward to your Goddess group sesh on Tuesday x x

  7. Minka Fox says:

    Ahhh thank you Melissa!
    Love this!

  8. Felicity says:

    I loved this post Mel! I’m sick of feeling busy and cringe whenever I use the word – this has inspired me to ban that darn ‘b’ word from my vocabulary! Thank you xx

  9. Thank you for this post, Melissa. Some of my friends think that being busy is sexy, as you said in your writing. When I listen to them I always thank God because I don’t want to be them…

    Is not that I am not busy sometimes, of course I am. But I don’t like the way people show off their busy lifes as if they were in a contest, and I don’t like either the way they look at those who don’t want to live that way.

    Thanks for the tips as well. I specially like #6 😀
    Hugs,

  10. Caroline says:

    That’s a great post Melissa, thank you so much for sharing those amazing tips! I’ll put them in practice right away as I’m also guilty of being “busy” and saying I’m….Merci ! xx

  11. Antonia says:

    Dear beautiful, strong Mel,
    I wanted to ask you if you ever had unhealthy relationships and if the answer is yes what have you done about it?
    And how do you practice accepting yourself enough so that othe’s negative opinions don’t bother you.
    Thank you,
    and happy late easter.
    sending you loads of love and light,
    Antonia

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Beautiful,

      Yes, I have had many unhealthy relationships but that was because I didn’t love myself. It wasn’t until I got to a place where I was bursting with love within myself that I was able to call in my soul mate. I have writien a few post’s about relationships which you might like to check out:

      How to Deal with a Break Up
      Let Go of This ONE Thing and Watch Your Relationships Flourish
      How to Have Authentic Relationships

      Have a read of those beautiful and let me know what you think?

      In regards to caring what other people think… when you are bursting with love within yourself you don’t care what other people think of you. This takes practice and something I commit to working on daily. This is why I create Get Your Glow On, to help women get to that place deep within their core where they are overflowing with love.

      You can get there honey. The first thing you need to do is close the door on your Mean Girl. She is the one caring what other people think, but it’s time to close the door on her.

      Give that a go and please let me know how you go.

      xx

      • Antonia says:

        Thank you,
        I would also like to ask you something: Do you have fixed times to eat?
        I know this might be a strange question, but recently two girls from my class were sent to hospital. I am naturally very skinny and want to learn everything in order to stay healthy.
        love

      • Melissa says:

        Hi Antonia,

        No I don’t have set times, I tune into my body and listen to its message. I believe that is the best way to eat.

        I hope your 2 friends are ok. I’m sending them so much love <3

        xx

      • Antonia says:

        Thank you so much Melissa,
        I just read your beautiful article for the Huffington Post and http://brendajanschek.com/guest-interviews/how-to-be-a-healthy-happy-teenager-with-melissa-ambrosini/
        I think it is extremely important to get your message to teenagers like me.
        I wasn’t aware of eating disorders as I assumed that they are not that present anymore. But it turned out to be even more popular today. 2% of all women describe themselves as beautiful and 1 in 4 college students are struggeling with eating disorders. This is so sad and has to be changed immediatly.
        Thank you for your patience and kindness.
        Love

  12. Melissa says:

    Melissa-
    I just stumbled upon your blog and am already in love! This is just what I need right now in m life. Can I ask what app you use as your planner? I need one! Thank you so much and I can’t wait to learn more from you.
    Melissa
    🙂

    • Melissa says:

      Hey Melissa (awesome name),

      I use iCal on my mac and it sync’s to my iPhone. You could also try Google Calendar if you wish.

      Have fun getting organised and digital 😉

      xx

  13. This is such a great topic! When I was in college I noticed a lot of passive-aggressive competition between students as to who had the most work and who could get the least amount of sleep. It was crazy! Heading into graduate school, I know I’m going to have a lot to get done, but it will never be at the expense of my sanity! Being too busy and not having time to take care of myself was one thing that contributed to an eating disorder in my early twenties so I can’t ever afford to let self-care fall by the wayside! Thanks for these tips and reminders! I’m definitely going to “eat my frog” first now!

    • Melissa says:

      Hi Alex,

      When we don’t have our health we can’t do anything. Self-care and self-love need to be our number one priority and at the top of our to-do list. I know that when I am looking after myself my work flow’s so much more effortlessly.

      Take care darling and make sure you get enough sleep.

      xx

  14. Oh this is so good Mel, I am always trying to find balance and feeling like I fall to one side or the other no matter what. Maybe it’s time to start accepting that these ebbs and flows are just life and going with it more. Thank you for the post. I am off to eat a frog now 🙂

    Kirstin

  15. Esther Ashcroft says:

    As i highly creative being I’ve come to realise that my best ideas come when i have nothing else to ‘do’, when I’m not working and when I’m doing “nothing”. Sometimes it takes 4 hours/2 weeks/a day of doing absolutely nothing or just being to all of sudden be struck with the lightbulb idea or moments of intense creativity and progress.
    I’ve allways felt guilty for this and and like i should be “doing something” but it’s just part of the artistic and creative process. And that’s OK! Thank goodness for that.
    Thank you for sharing yourself and light Melissa.
    xoxx

    • Melissa says:

      Hi Esther,

      You’re right! It is part of the creative process. Most my best ideas come when I am sitting on a park bench watching the world go by, or when I am walking along the beach with no place to actually be. It’s those moments we stop and find stillness that the muse can enter. My aim is to find more moments of stillness during my day where I can do nothing.

      Have fun finding yours beautiful.

      xx

  16. Jing says:

    Oh Melissa what an amazing relatable post. Couldn’t have read it at a better time.
    Banishing the ‘busy’ for sure. Love, Jing from melbourne xx

  17. Hayley Carr says:

    Love this post honey! x x

  18. Danielle says:

    I love this post!! Thanks Melissa, so insightful and helpful and True!!!

  19. Nicole says:

    I just discovered you and your work today through Ali Schueler. I wish I’d found you so long ago! Isn’t it funny, how these are SO SIMPLE to do….but yet we don’t do them, and then we find you because we are so lost and confused without a clue. And there you are….it’s truly so easy.
    I had a bit of a tear while reading so many, and then this one grabbed me and shook me. YES! Absolutely. I am right. there. I could kiss you right now you are just so spot on.

    • Melissa says:

      Hehehehe you’re hilarious!

      I am so glad you have joined our tribe honey, better now than never 😉

      Please share your insights along your journey.

      xx

  20. Ella says:

    I’d love to see a post about your best tips to tackle constant procrastination – my biggest productivity issue!!

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