For many years, I put everyone else’s needs before my own. I was a gold medal people pleaser. I grew up watching my mum, my nonna and all the other women around me put everyone else before themselves at the detriment of their own health and happiness. So basically, I thought that’s just what women did! Then at the age of 24, I ended up in hospital incredibly unwell and unhappy after I’d burnt the candle at both ends and doled out more energy than I had to give. All that Oscar-worthy people pleasing had finally got the better of me.
You see, I grew up with the belief that you ‘should’ do things for other people, even if it isn’t your truth. If someone needed something, it was your job to do it — even if it conflicted with your own needs, beliefs and priorities. But today, I’m calling BS on that, once and for all!
Now before you get your knickers in a knot, I am not saying that you shouldn’t do nice things for other people. Abso-freaking-lutely do millions of nice things for other people — all the time if you want to — but do them ONLY because you are bursting out of your skin to do it. Do it because you would love to, NOT because you think you ‘should’. There’s a BIG difference.