When I was first asked to be a part of Melissa’s Soul Sister Success Stories series, my first response was oh em gee (of course). This was shortly followed by a long list of negative thoughts – what would you write, you haven’t done anything outstanding, what will other people think – you catch my drift. But if there is one thing I’ve learnt this year, it is that these negative thoughts are coming from my inner Mean Girl and I don’t have to (or want to) listen to her anymore.
Before reading Melissa’s book, my Mean Girl held me back from achieving the things I wanted most in life and I let her. My ah-ha moment wasn’t hitting rock bottom, I have always been a mostly happy person, loving the jobs I’ve done and the people around me. I think the turning point for me was noticing that something was missing and I was curious to find out what that was. Looking back, I was just going through the motions of life on autopilot and I wanted more.
Last year I decided it was time to spread my wings and I set off on an eight month backpacking adventure through Africa, Europe and South East Asia. Stepping outside of my bubble and into the big wide world opened my eyes, giving me a new perspective on life and sending me in the right direction to figuring out what I wanted to do with the rest of mine. I was lucky enough to meet amazing people and experience so many different cultures – each with their own way of life that was completely different to my own. Coming home I realised just how conditioned we are to live one way, work long weeks in jobs we hate to make money to spend on things that most likely will just end up in a landfill. I now know that I want to live a life that fulfills me each and every day, I want to be valued, have purpose, and I want to find ways of contributing to the greater good of people. My travels were life changing and was certainly the beginning of my journey to a new me, but alas! I still found myself back home, with that feeling that something was missing.
I came across Melissa’s book Mastering Your Mean Girl soon after that – my beautiful friend Tash introduced me to her work and we started going to her Goddess Groups together. A combination of these sessions and her book helped me to realise that I was trying to fit the mould. I was holding myself back and trying to live the ‘normal’ life out of fear of what other people would think. Now, I’m determined to make a mould that fits me! People will tell you that in the last 12 months I have become unapologetically me. I’ve found my groove and ultimately drop it low to the beat of my own drum. I was using my resources, or lack thereof, as an excuse, but as Melissa always says in every situation you have two choices – find the love in it or change it.
So, this year, I have been working full time while studying the things I love part time. I have already completed my 200-hour yoga teacher training and am half way into my studies to become a Health Coach with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. With Melissa’s wisdom and support, I have realised that I can achieve anything my heart desires and that my happiness and sense of fulfilment comes from within. Don’t get me wrong, I still get lost from time to time but with the tools Melissa gives us in her book I can quickly find my way back to my journey, and the path I was put on this earth to live, not the one I think I ‘should’ be living.
Melissa’s book challenged my way of thinking, it unleashed a new way of living and gave me the permission I needed to live the life of my dreams without the approval of others. I can now safely say that I am happy in my own skin, proud of what I’m achieving and excited about every day to come