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Is your fear of being visible holding you back from the success you know you’re capable of?

Maybe you avoid going live on social media. Perhaps you struggle to post consistently. Or maybe you’ve never gone ‘all in’ on showing up as the face of your business.

Whatever version of this you’re struggling with, it’s likely NOT because you don’t have enough information or you’re not sure of what strategy to use… it’s likely caused by a hefty dose of self-doubt, fear of visibility, and concern about what people will think of you.

And I get it — Will your followers judge you? Criticize you? Doubt your expertise? Every single one of us who shows up on social media has grappled with these same questions at one point, so if you’re nodding your head right now, you’re certainly not alone.

BUT — and this is a really important ‘but’ — the people who are kicking goals and growing their impact (and income!) do one thing differently:

They refuse to stay invisible. They feel the discomfort, show up anyway, and keep moving forward. Because they know that every time they hide, they delay their business growth, keep their gifts from the world, and make it harder for their dream clients to find them.

So if you’ve been holding yourself back in this way, let’s fix that now.

In this episode, I’m walking you through some of my best-ever hacks for overcoming the fear of visibility. If you’re ready to stop playing small and start showing up powerfully in your business, then press play now… this one’s for you!

In this episode we chat about:

• Why it’s okay to block people you know while you’re growing your audience (2:10)
• The surprising reason why being seen can feel so terrifying — and how to turn it into your superpower (3:24)
• The powerful question that instantly transforms fear into fuel (4:30)
• The truth about ‘perfection’ on social media (and the surprising thing that all my most viral posts have in common!) (5:15)
• The critical thing you *need* to seek out if you want to succeed on this journey (6:38)

Episode resources:

• SheLaunch (join here)
• Mastering Your Mean Girl by Melissa Ambrosini (book)
• Open Wide by Melissa Ambrosini (book)
• Comparisonitis by Melissa Ambrosini (book)
• Time Magic by Melissa Ambrosini and Nick Broadhurst (book)

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[00:00:00] Welcome to the Melissa Ambrosini show. I’m your host, Melissa, best selling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, Open Wide, Comparisonitis, and Time Magic. And I’m here to remind you that love is sexy, healthy is liberating, and wealthy isn’t a dirty word. Each week I’ll be getting up close and personal with thought leaders from around the world, as well as your weekly dose of motivation so that you can create epic change in your own life.

Hey beautiful, welcome back to the show. I’m so excited about this episode because today I’m going to be sharing with you how to get over your fear of being visible. And this is so important. Because if you have been holding yourself back from showing up online, whether that is [00:01:00] going live on Instagram or posting regularly or fully stepping into your business, it’s probably not because you don’t know what to say or how to do it.

It’s likely because you are worried about what people will think of you. Will they judge you? Will they criticize you? Will they think that you’re not good enough or smart enough or experienced enough? If that’s you, you are not alone. As humans, we are wired to fear judgment because historically being part of a group was a necessity for our survival.

So it is understandable that the idea of standing out or being seen or being vulnerable feels uncomfortable. But here’s the truth, my friend. Staying invisible, it’s costing you. So every time you choose to hide, you are holding yourself back. You are holding back your potential. You are delaying your business growth and your personal growth.

You are keeping your gifts from the [00:02:00] world and preventing your ideal dream clients from finding you. So it is time. It is time, my friend, to break through that fear. And here is how. Number one, this is how you do it. You start small and you start safe. Write that down. Start small and start safe. You don’t need to jump into doing a live webinar with a hundred or a thousand people or post a conventional opinion right away.

Start with baby steps. Post a short video introducing yourself or share a behind the scenes moment on your Instagram stories. Or write a post on a topic that you love, accompanied by a picture or video of yourself. Start with actions that feel manageable and build from there. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

And a little hot tip for you, if you need to block your father or your bestie or your old boss in order to feel comfortable posting, that is okay. Do what you need to do. [00:03:00] And if you ever get called out on it, which is highly unlikely, you can just tell them the truth. You can say something like, I needed some space to show up authentically and not worry about any extra pressure.

So it’s not personal. It’s just part of my own growth. And most people will totally understand. And for those that don’t, well, they probably weren’t your ideal audience anyway. So that is the first thing that you can do is start small and start safe. The second thing you can do is shift your focus off yourself.

This is what I teach inside SheLaunch. It is not about you. You showing up online is about finding your dream clients and serving them. So when you are scared of being visible, we are usually focusing too much on ourselves, our fears, our insecurities, and our doubts. So instead, try shifting your focus to your ideal audience that you are here to serve.

And I want you to think about your ideal client. What are they struggling with? What are their biggest desires? [00:04:00] How can you help them when you focus on serving and not worrying about what other people think? It’s easier to show up with confidence. So I want you to ask yourself. Who needs to hear this message today?

How will my content impact someone who’s struggling with X, Y, and Z? Am I comfortable with holding my help from someone who truly needs it? Just because I feel a bit awkward. Okay. So ask yourself those questions. And that is the second thing that you can do. Shift your focus off you. Okay, the third thing you can do is turn fear into fuel.

So fear often gets a bad rap, but what if you could flip the script instead of letting fear paralyze you, recognize it as a signal that you are stepping into something bigger and greater. That nervous feeling in your stomach. That doesn’t mean that you should stop. It means you’re about to break through a barrier.

It is a compass pointing you toward growth and evolution, which is what we’re here for, which is what we want. So the next [00:05:00] time the fear of visibility creeps in, I want you to ask yourself what opportunity for growth is hiding behind this fear. Then use your answer as fuel to propel you forward. Okay. So that is the third thing you can do.

Turn your fear into fuel. Number four, get comfortable with imperfection. So the fear of visibility is often tied to the fear of not being perfect. And inside SheLaunch, I get all of my clients to delete the word perfect from their vocabulary because. It doesn’t exist and striving for it is only holding us back.

So we know that perfection does not exist and guess what? Even if it did, people don’t connect with perfect. They connect with real. So just a little case in point. Some of my most popular and viral reels and content have been the most imperfect. Because they are real, raw and relatable. So let go of the pressure to be flawless.

If you stumble over your words or your hair isn’t perfectly blow [00:06:00] dried, it’s okay. It’s your authenticity that will resonate with your audience. In fact, I’ve actually posted things where later I’ve gone back and rewatched it and I’ve got chia seeds in my teeth. Like. Do I delete it? No, I don’t even care.

I’m just like, whatever. We’ve all had food in our teeth before. So let go of perfect. And just remember that if your underlying message is strong enough, and I teach this inside Qi Launch, you need strong messages. valuable content, epic content, and if it is strong enough, none of that other stuff will matter.

Okay. So that’s number four, get comfortable with imperfection. Number five, seek out support. Having people in your corner who cheer you on can make all the difference. Whether it is a business mentor, a group of entrepreneurial friends, or a coach, surrounding yourself with people who believe in you can help ease that fear of showing up.

Okay? And if the [00:07:00] fear of visibility is holding you back, I would love to help you. Like I mentioned, inside SheLaunch, we dig deep into these challenges and work through and overcome them together so that you can show up fully and grow in your business and your life faster. The whole first module inside SheLaunch is mindset mastery because 80 percent of success is mindset.

20 percent is skills, tools, strategies. And I can teach you all of that, how to create a successful business, give you all the tools and tips and tricks and strategies. but the mindset piece. That you have to do. Okay. And that is 80 percent of the equation. So step five is seek out support. And if you want my support, come to shelaunched.

com. I would love to support you in your business and life and help you get to where you want to be. So just a little recap of those five steps. If you have a fear of being visible, I want you to write this down. The first thing you need to do is start small and start safe. Number two, shift your focus off [00:08:00] yourself.

Number three, turn your fear into fuel. Number four, get comfortable with imperfection. And number five, seek out support. Now, as much as you might resist it, visibility is a non negotiable part of growing your dream business. If you want your dream business and you have a personal brand, then you’ve got to be visible.

And yes, it can feel scary at times. Yes, it can push you way outside your comfort zone, but the rewards of showing up far outweigh the risks. And there are so many people that are waiting for you to support them. You have got something so special to offer the people out there who are actively looking for you.

So please do not hide it. It is time to let the world see the magic that you have been holding back. You have totally got this beautiful. I believe in you. I am proud of you. Let’s do it. If you loved this episode, please come and tell me on [00:09:00] Instagram at Melissa Ambrosini and tell me your top key takeaway from this episode.

I would love to hear, and I’d love to connect with you as well. My Instagram DMs are one of my favorite places to hang out online besides my SheLaunch community. So come and tell me there. And before I go, I just wanted to say thank you so much for being here, for wanting to be the best, the healthiest and the happiest version of yourself and for showing up today for you.

You rock. Now if there’s someone in your life that you can think of that would really benefit from this episode, please share it with them right now. You can take a screenshot, share it on your social media, email it to them, text it to them. Do whatever you’ve got to do to get this in their ears. And until next time, don’t forget that love is sexy, healthy is liberating, and wealthy isn’t a dirty word.

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