The choice is yours. And you will be tested. Time and time again. Like everything, choosing love takes work. Choosing love over fear is a practice that you need to commit to. Daily! However, I invite you to begin to see the fun in it. See it as a game. “Oh goodie, another opportunity to choose love when I would normally close off.” This is the work. It needs to be done daily in order for us to grow and evolve. It’s uncomfortable, I know. But we must be willing to shimmy through the discomfort in order to get to the other side, because on the other side is evolution.
One of the common ones I see is us ladies closing off in our relationships. Something doesn't go our way, we get disappointed, we have an expectation hangover then we close down. Shutting out our love and the world. When this happens I want you to remember this saying, nothing good comes from closing, ever. Let that be your guiding mantra back home to yourself.
When I am tested, I play the game. If I feel that old familiar urge to close off, run away and shut down, I consciously choose a different path. Instead, I open my chest, drop my shoulders, and vision a white (or golden) light beaming out from the center of my heart. I repeat to myself, "Now is the time to open up, beautiful. Go on, you can do it.” I sit in silence, eyes closed and let the feeling wash through me. Yes, it’s uncomfortable. But what’s more uncomfortable is hanging out in fear town with my Mean Girl. Don’t be scared to sit in it, it’s all part of the process. And remember, "this too shall pass."
Next time you want to shut down and sip martini's with your Mean Girl, I invite you to open up instead. You won’t believe the difference this one, tiny shift can have on your life.
Do you have any helpful tips for when you shut down? I would love to hear them, so share with us in the comments below.
Thank you so much for the insights you leave in the comments. Reading them really warms my heart.