Once a month, usually on the full moon, I get together with my girlfriends for what we call ‘The Goddess Circle’. We are all full (I don’t use the word busy) — loads of things going on, heaps of people to catch up with, some have husbands and kids to look after and to-do lists as long as  the Thames — but that’s not a good enough excuse to not see your soul sistas and call in the divine feminine.

You see, us ladies thrive on feminine energy. It’s what lights us up and inspires us. Back in the day when we were surrounded by our tribe, women worked together. Nowadays one is perceived to go at it alone. And you may notice that if you go weeks without seeing your soul sister’s, you feel off. That’s because our soul craves that nurturing, feminine energy. In fact, we need it in order to be our fullest, most wholehearted divine selves.

So, I have taken the liberty of putting together everything you need to know to host a Goddess Circle with your own soul sistas…

1. Pick A Person Who Is Going To Host The Circle At Their Home

For the most recent full moon, that was me!

2. Give Plenty Of Notice

The host sends out an email or digital calendar invites confirming the details. Mine looked something like this:

Beautiful goddess,

Please join together for the next Goddess Circle on [insert next full moon date] at my place*. Please arrive at 6pm and bring an organic dish to share.

Looking forward to seeing you then.

P.S Please RSVP by [insert date] so I know how many to cook for.

Love Melissa

*134 Love Street,
Heart Town

It’s important to send out this email a month in advance, especially if your girlfriends have kids — they need extra time to make arrangements and rope in a babysitter!

3. Plan Your Food

The host usually cooks one main dish, with guests bringing along a share plate as well. I made an organic vegetable curry, which was a huge hit. Ensure that you make enough for everyone, and that you cater for people’s dietary requirements. In my circle, we try to ensure that all of the food is organic, and gluten, dairy and sugar free. We also make sure there is a few vegan options for those who choose not to eat animal products.

Stuck for ideas on what to make? Get creative! Think colourful salads, roast coconut veggies, cultured foods, warm soups, coconut curry, kelp noodle pad thai, vegetable frittata and hearty casseroles.

4. Set The Mood

As the host, the atmosphere you create for your sista’s is so important. I like to light beeswax candles, burn sage before they arrive, put on some beautiful heart opening music, dim the lights, diffuse some organic essential oils and make the space as warm and comfortable as possible.

We are hardwired for soul-to-soul connection.

5. The Guests Arrive

As a guest, always be conscious of the energy you bring into the space. (And try not to be late — the energy of rushing and hurrying isn’t a good way to start your evening of sacred sisterhood!)

6. Blessings

We all sit, the host gives thanks for the food and for each other, and we say a little prayer. We then eat and talk, eat and talk … then eat and talk some more!

7. Get Intimate

After dinner we all sit around the table on the floor with herbal tea and raw cacao goodies for the more intimate part of the night.

8. Time For A Releasing Ritual

Hand around pens and Post-it notes and get everyone to write down three things they want to dissolve or let go off. Go around the group, reading them out to each other, then scrunching ‘em up and throwing them in a bowl in the middle of the table. (Some people like to burn the papers, but I prefer the less risky — and less smoky! — practice of just scrunching and releasing.) There is also something so powerful about publicly declaring what you want to let go of. It helps hold you accountable.

9. Gratitude

After releasing comes … gratitude! We all write down three things we are deeply grateful for and three things we want to call into our life. Again, we all go around the group and share what we’ve written.

10. Wrap Up

The night wraps up whenever you feel like it. Usually with plenty of hugs and loads of divine, grounded energy thrumming in our hearts.

Helpful Tips

• Always try to arrive on time. Of course, things are going to pop up now and then, so if that does happen, make sure you text the host ASAP to let them know.
• It’s important that everyone knows that what happens in the circle, stays in the circle. The circle is a safe scared space for everyone to express their truth, feel held and show up authentically. Honor that sacred sisterhood pact.
• Throughout the night, we like to recommend books, recipes, cafes, healers, films, albums and documentaries to help support each other. I can type these in the notes section on my smartphone or bring a little journal.
• In summer, it’s great to hold the entire evening outdoors, so we can soak in the powerful energy of the moon. There is something so incredibly healing about tuning in with the potent energy of the moon, especially on that time of the month. Ideally, our cycles should be in sync with the moon cycle and one way to help your body get in sync is by spending time under the moon’s rays. Get outside at night as much as you can, and if you can sleep with the blinds open so the moon can shine down on you whilst you sleep.
• Make sure your phone is on silent or on airplane mode, there’s nothing more annoying then when someone’s phone keeps dinging every two seconds. Respect your sista’s and be present.

Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever been to a Goddess Circle? If so, do you have any other ideas, tips of tricks we could add to this list? Please share in the comments below.

As always, thank you so much for the love, advice and support you pour into the comments. You warm my heart.